If you’re dating, in a long-term relationship, or engaged, you may be wondering what marriage is like. You probably have friends with good marriages and those who have so-so marriages. Perhaps you’ve got questions, but you don’t know exactly how to ask. Questions like: Is it hard? Is it worth it? Why get married? Well,…
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Rekindling the passion may be easier than you think.
You expect a campfire to burn hot and then turn into ashes. But you didn’t expect the fire to die down in your marriage, did you? Love… sex… connection… You expected them to go through ruts, maybe. Highs and lows? Sure. But nobody expects to wake up one day and realize the intimacy is gone.…
You probably never thought it would get to this. You always seemed to like the same shows, movies, and activities, and you spent all your free time together. Now, it feels like you NEVER do anything together, or that your husband is just boring and never WANTS to do anything with you. If you’re honest,…
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Processing your emotions may be easier if you know some of the facts about porn.
So your husband watches porn, and you’re wondering how you should feel about it. Perhaps you’re frustrated and wondering if you have a reason to be upset. Or maybe it doesn’t bother you, and that’s what bothers you. It’s probably hard to know just what to feel or think or do with this. Pornography can…
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If you don't reach your goals, it doesn't mean your relationship is a failure!
So, how are those New Year’s resolutions going? According to data collected in 2018 by the fitness app Strava, January 17 is when many start to give up on their resolutions. By early to mid-February, many have thrown in the towel. What does this mean for you and for your relationship? If you set goals…
Each new year, people examine things they want to change or improve. Some people want to work on their marriage. That’s a worthy goal, but what if you’re one of those people who’s trying to save their marriage, and you feel like your spouse isn’t trying? That can be painful, for sure. Marriage is two…
https://firstthings.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/frustrated-upset-couple-after-quarrel-sitting-sofa-home-scaled-e1610465744432.jpg409900Gena Ellishttps://firstthings.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/ftf-logo-300x186.pngGena Ellis2021-01-12 10:36:202021-01-12 17:07:51I’m Trying to Save My Marriage, but My Spouse Isn’t
Here are a few reasons you might feel this way—and what you can do about it.
Maybe when you started living with your in-laws, you didn’t think it would be all that bad. After all, they raised your spouse. But now, living with them feels like it’s destroying your marriage. Criticism. Judgment. Parenting critiques. Lack of boundaries. Arguments. Living with them seems to be impacting your marriage—not for better, but for…
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Even though it may be hard or even painful, a healthier relationship is worth the effort.
If you knew a killer was in your house, you’d fight to protect your family, right? Well, built-up resentment can be a silent killer in marriage that’s hard (but not impossible) to overcome. Festering resentment affects what you think of your spouse and how much you trust them. It can erode emotional intimacy and connectedness.…
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A thriving marriage can be yours in the coming year, too!
2020 is finally in the rearview mirror, so let’s all breathe a collective sigh of relief. It was a challenging year for many. But as we close out that chapter, it’s good to reflect on lessons learned. I want to focus specifically on what 2020 has taught us about marriage. Many declared a year of…
https://firstthings.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/amanda-plata-rmSgx2PWFdA-unsplash-scaled-e1609879863397.jpg362900Mitchell Quallshttps://firstthings.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/ftf-logo-300x186.pngMitchell Qualls2021-01-05 15:51:212021-01-05 16:06:48What 2020 Has Taught Us About Marriage
There are two kinds of spouses in the world. (Ugh. I can’t stand statements like this.) Those who think it’s not important to share some common interests with their spouse. Those who think not having common interests is the end of the world. (Or marriage.) They’re both wrong. “I don’t think our marriage can work.…
https://firstthings.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/pexels-cottonbro-4009401-scaled-e1609795555945.jpg355900John Daumhttps://firstthings.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/ftf-logo-300x186.pngJohn Daum2021-01-04 16:26:102021-09-22 15:19:59How to Find Common Interests With Your Spouse
The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth. -Niels Bohr Do I have to tell my spouse everything? Do you want your spouse to tell you everything? It depends. It really does. What do we know for sure? Once you marry…
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A new year brings new opportunities, new goals, and a fresh start. As we enter a new year, many are making resolutions with a desire to improve something. According to a survey by Finder, 45% of Americans will make a health-related New Year’s resolution So, as I sat down to write, I thought about some…
https://firstthings.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/krakenimages-4l8UH4G2_Dg-unsplash-e1609772175277.jpg438900Mitchell Quallshttps://firstthings.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/ftf-logo-300x186.pngMitchell Qualls2021-01-04 09:56:322021-08-17 11:50:085 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Fit
Every relationship requires a little give and take.
We throw the words compromise and sacrifice around quite a bit in relationships. But what exactly do they mean? And don’t they mean the same thing? Well, the short answer is, not exactly. It’s complicated, kind of like relationships are sometimes. Read on to see what I mean. Both sacrifice and compromise require someone to…
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How can you love your spouse and be thinking about having an affair? Is that even possible? The whole thing is super confusing. Well, believe it or not, there may be a logical explanation. Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity, says couples need both closeness and distance to sustain a level of sexual intimacy…
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Get cozy and grow closer with this merry little list that's guaranteed to make the holidays sweeter!
The holidays are the perfect time for couples to experience closeness and connection in the spirit of the season. Try out a few of these fun holiday date ideas with the one you love most! Watch your favorite Christmas movie with some gourmet hot chocolate. Pick up some donuts and coffee and visit neighborhoods to…
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Protect (and maybe even save) your marriage by being open with your spouse and talking about these ideas.
Marital affairs are kind of like rust. On the surface, it’s apparent that a single, ugly event has happened. But underneath is a complex process of chemical reactions and driving forces that have built up over time. Affairs are complicated like that. And finding out why people really have affairs can be even more complicated.…
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Get ready to work out those communication kinks and keep the conversation going!
Healthy communication lies at the root of any successful relationship. In marriage, this is even more of a necessity. Like our muscles, our communication skills also need to be worked out. There are practices we can make part of our regular routines that will strengthen communication in our marriage. Here are four communication exercises for…
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Being together all the time can be a struggle, but these things can help your marriage thrive!
With the ongoing pandemic many couples are stuck at home together more than ever, which for some has been great. For others, it’s been a real struggle to not get on each other’s last nerve. After witnessing some of these struggles, Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, wrote 5 Ways to Be…
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Here are four common issues you can fix... and quick!
Every couple experiences little instances of communication breakdown. It just happens. Of course, the little things can gradually chip away at your connectedness in your marriage. Small drops of water from a leaky pipe over time lead to big problems. Minor bad communication habits are like that. Not that big of a thing in the…
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“But we’re only just friends!” or “I have to talk to Karen in Accounting for work!” These can be the typical responses from people having emotional or “virtual” affairs. According to several sources like psychologists Kristina Coop Gordon and Erica A. Mitchell at The University of Tennessee Knoxville, data indicates that emotional or “virtual” affairs…
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10 Things You Need to Know About Marriage
If you’re dating, in a long-term relationship, or engaged, you may be wondering what marriage is like. You probably have friends with good marriages and those who have so-so marriages. Perhaps you’ve got questions, but you don’t know exactly how to ask. Questions like: Is it hard? Is it worth it? Why get married? Well,…
Help! Our Intimacy is Gone
You expect a campfire to burn hot and then turn into ashes. But you didn’t expect the fire to die down in your marriage, did you? Love… sex… connection… You expected them to go through ruts, maybe. Highs and lows? Sure. But nobody expects to wake up one day and realize the intimacy is gone.…
Help! My Husband is Boring
You probably never thought it would get to this. You always seemed to like the same shows, movies, and activities, and you spent all your free time together. Now, it feels like you NEVER do anything together, or that your husband is just boring and never WANTS to do anything with you. If you’re honest,…
Should I Be Upset That My Husband Watches Porn?
So your husband watches porn, and you’re wondering how you should feel about it. Perhaps you’re frustrated and wondering if you have a reason to be upset. Or maybe it doesn’t bother you, and that’s what bothers you. It’s probably hard to know just what to feel or think or do with this. Pornography can…
How Failed New Year’s Resolutions Can Affect Marriages
So, how are those New Year’s resolutions going? According to data collected in 2018 by the fitness app Strava, January 17 is when many start to give up on their resolutions. By early to mid-February, many have thrown in the towel. What does this mean for you and for your relationship? If you set goals…
I’m Trying to Save My Marriage, but My Spouse Isn’t
Each new year, people examine things they want to change or improve. Some people want to work on their marriage. That’s a worthy goal, but what if you’re one of those people who’s trying to save their marriage, and you feel like your spouse isn’t trying? That can be painful, for sure. Marriage is two…
We’re Living With Our In-Laws and It’s Destroying Our Marriage
Maybe when you started living with your in-laws, you didn’t think it would be all that bad. After all, they raised your spouse. But now, living with them feels like it’s destroying your marriage. Criticism. Judgment. Parenting critiques. Lack of boundaries. Arguments. Living with them seems to be impacting your marriage—not for better, but for…
How to Overcome Built-Up Resentment in Marriage
If you knew a killer was in your house, you’d fight to protect your family, right? Well, built-up resentment can be a silent killer in marriage that’s hard (but not impossible) to overcome. Festering resentment affects what you think of your spouse and how much you trust them. It can erode emotional intimacy and connectedness.…
What 2020 Has Taught Us About Marriage
2020 is finally in the rearview mirror, so let’s all breathe a collective sigh of relief. It was a challenging year for many. But as we close out that chapter, it’s good to reflect on lessons learned. I want to focus specifically on what 2020 has taught us about marriage. Many declared a year of…
How to Find Common Interests With Your Spouse
There are two kinds of spouses in the world. (Ugh. I can’t stand statements like this.) Those who think it’s not important to share some common interests with their spouse. Those who think not having common interests is the end of the world. (Or marriage.) They’re both wrong. “I don’t think our marriage can work.…
Do I Have To Tell My Spouse Everything?
The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth. -Niels Bohr Do I have to tell my spouse everything? Do you want your spouse to tell you everything? It depends. It really does. What do we know for sure? Once you marry…
5 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Fit
A new year brings new opportunities, new goals, and a fresh start. As we enter a new year, many are making resolutions with a desire to improve something. According to a survey by Finder, 45% of Americans will make a health-related New Year’s resolution So, as I sat down to write, I thought about some…
The Difference Between Sacrifice and Compromise in a Relationship
We throw the words compromise and sacrifice around quite a bit in relationships. But what exactly do they mean? And don’t they mean the same thing? Well, the short answer is, not exactly. It’s complicated, kind of like relationships are sometimes. Read on to see what I mean. Both sacrifice and compromise require someone to…
I Love My Spouse, But I’m Thinking About Having an Affair
How can you love your spouse and be thinking about having an affair? Is that even possible? The whole thing is super confusing. Well, believe it or not, there may be a logical explanation. Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity, says couples need both closeness and distance to sustain a level of sexual intimacy…
25 Fun Holiday Date Ideas for Couples
The holidays are the perfect time for couples to experience closeness and connection in the spirit of the season. Try out a few of these fun holiday date ideas with the one you love most! Watch your favorite Christmas movie with some gourmet hot chocolate. Pick up some donuts and coffee and visit neighborhoods to…
Why People Really Have Affairs (It’s Not Always Just About Sex)
Marital affairs are kind of like rust. On the surface, it’s apparent that a single, ugly event has happened. But underneath is a complex process of chemical reactions and driving forces that have built up over time. Affairs are complicated like that. And finding out why people really have affairs can be even more complicated.…
4 Communication Exercises For Married Couples
Healthy communication lies at the root of any successful relationship. In marriage, this is even more of a necessity. Like our muscles, our communication skills also need to be worked out. There are practices we can make part of our regular routines that will strengthen communication in our marriage. Here are four communication exercises for…
5 Simple Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage When You’re Stuck at Home Together
With the ongoing pandemic many couples are stuck at home together more than ever, which for some has been great. For others, it’s been a real struggle to not get on each other’s last nerve. After witnessing some of these struggles, Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, wrote 5 Ways to Be…
How To Improve Bad Communication In Marriage
Every couple experiences little instances of communication breakdown. It just happens. Of course, the little things can gradually chip away at your connectedness in your marriage. Small drops of water from a leaky pipe over time lead to big problems. Minor bad communication habits are like that. Not that big of a thing in the…
How To Protect Your Marriage From An Emotional Affair
“But we’re only just friends!” or “I have to talk to Karen in Accounting for work!” These can be the typical responses from people having emotional or “virtual” affairs. According to several sources like psychologists Kristina Coop Gordon and Erica A. Mitchell at The University of Tennessee Knoxville, data indicates that emotional or “virtual” affairs…
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