10 Potentially Irreconcilable Differences

10 Potentially Irreconcilable Differences

10 Potentially Irreconcilable Differences

The University of Washington has more than 35 years of marital research by Dr. John Gottman that determines with greater than a 90 percent accuracy rate what's going to happen to a relationship over a three-year period.

In a national telephone survey, there were two issues that couples were most likely to report arguing about. What would you guess those two areas are?

ANSWER: Money and Children

Examples of common differences might include:

  • In-Laws & Extended Family Involvement

  • Balance Between Home & Work

  • Communication Patterns

  • Sexual Intimacy

  • Personal Habits & Idiosyncrasies

  • Sharing Household Responsibilities

  • Outside Friendships

  • Political Views

  • Debt Difficulties

  • Disciplining Children

Here is the important takeaway: Differences are inevitable. It's how you manage the differences that matters. Discuss potential differences in your relationship.

For example: Money

1. Discuss how money was managed in your family.

2. How would you want money managed in your marriage?

3. Discuss: “What does money mean to you?”