Whether you are a son or a daughter, mom or dad, relationships change quite a bit when after marriage. These tips can help to strengthen the ties that bind you together as a family.
How to be a good mother/father-in-law
Let your in-law make his/her own decisions without meddling from you.
As the relationship between your child and his chosen partner deepens, expect that they will want to spend more and more time alone, together.
Make positive comments about your child’s spouse – both in private and in public.
See your in-law as an individual. Do not compare him/her to others, and do not become too wrapped up in the stereotype of the “perfect” in-law.
Make your in-law feel needed.
How to be a good son/daughter-in-law
Maintain direct contact with your in-laws. Don’t enlist your spouse as an unwilling "go-between."
Find a comfortable way of addressing your in-laws. Solicit their help in determining what they would like you to call them.
Try to see your in-laws as individuals separate and apart from the role they play.
Be real and authentic with your in-laws.
If you feel jealous about your spouse’s relationship with his/her parents, talk to your spouse, to better understand each other’s feelings.
How to be a good child/spouse
Encourage your partner and your parents to relate to one another directly. Don’t allow yourself to be put in the middle.
Compliment your spouse and your parents in front of each other.
Do not tolerate criticism from either one toward the other.
Don't make your spouse responsible for the relationship between you and your parents.
Do not play your spouse against your parents.