David H. Olson, founder of Life Innovations and one of the creators of the Prepare/Enrich marriage enrichment tools, has surveyed 21,501 married couples in all 50 states to identify the top ten strengths of happy marriages.
Research shows the strongest couples are those who have strong communication skills, a clear sense of closeness as a couple, flexibility, personal compatibility and good conflict management skills.
In strong marriages, there is a balance between separateness and togetherness. These couples make togetherness a top priority, ask each other for help, like doing things together, and spend most of their free time together.
- Partners are satisfied with communication.
- Partners handle their differences creatively.
- They feel very close to each other.
- Spouses are not controlling.
- Partners discuss their problems well.
- They are satisfied with the affection they show and receive in the marriage.
- There is a good balance of time alone and together.
- Family and friends rarely interfere.
- Partners agree on how to spend money.
- Partners agree on spiritual beliefs.
***If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, contact the National Hotline for Domestic Abuse. At this link, you can access a private chat with someone who can help you 24/7. If you fear that someone is monitoring your computer or device, call the hotline 24/7 at: 1−800−799−7233. For a clear understanding of what defines an abusive relationship, click here.***
Tired of the so-so communication in your marriage?
Check out this hefty DIGITAL E-BOOK by Marriage Researchers & Therapists
Inside, you’ll find:
- How and why you and your spouse communicate differently, and what to do about it
- 5 proven listening techniques that will pump up the intimacy in your relationship
- 4 ways to start and end difficult conversations well
- 5 ways you may be hindering communication with your spouse without realizing it
- AND MORE!
PLUS! Every section has an easy, no-stress discussion guide created for you and your partner to build the communication you want in your marriage.