October 29, 2021
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11 things not to do when planning a wedding
So you’re planning a wedding. Everyone from family and friends to social media is giving you advice so your day can be all that you could ever dream of. Plus, there are a ton of tips and lists out there of all you should do to make your wedding day perfect and memorable. It can be overwhelming.
We’ve got some of those list and blogs, too. But our goal is to help you avoid things that lessen the wedding planning experience and negatively affect the marriage.
Here’s 11 things NOT to do when it comes to planning your wedding:
💍Don’t assume you know how much everything costs.
💍 Don’t neglect your mental health.
💍 Don’t neglect your fiancé.
💍 Don’t forget: The wedding celebration is one day. Marriage is hopefully forever.
💍 Don’t ignore red flags.
💍 Don’t succumb to the comparison game.
💍 Don’t neglect premarital preparation.
💍 Don’t start planning your escape.
💍 Don’t take yourself too seriously.
💍 Don’t neglect date nights.
💍 Don’t try to do it all yourself.
Let’s face it, planning a wedding is probably one of the biggest parties we’re ever in charge of.
Parties are meant to be fun and memorable even if they can be a lot of work, time-consuming, and stressful. Staying focused on the purpose of the wedding instead of perfection can help you find more joy as you get ready for the party.
tips for newlyweds for a happy, healthy marriage
The bride-to-be shared that it was only two weeks, four days and six hours until the wedding. Her eyes sparkled as she talked, and everyone could tell she was head over heels in love. Many brides who have gone before her know that feeling so well. They also know that starry-eyed love is not all you need to carry you through the marriage journey.
What kind of advice would newlyweds give to engaged couples?
Research shows that money is one of the least important factors couples consider when preparing for marriage.
Adjusting to having someone else around and having to consider their thoughts, feelings, likes and dislikes is a huge change.
Learning how to do the marriage dance without stepping on each other’s toes is a skill that takes time to master.
Coming together should make you better as an individual and better as a team.
Finally, keep expectations realistic.
A great start for your marriage takes at least as much prep time as you put into your wedding day. These couples have high hopes for a long-lasting, healthy marriage. If that is your goal, make it a point to start investing now in your relationship.
The return on your investment will be worth it!
what we’re lovin’
This week’s picks come from Gena Ellis, wife to her college sweetheart, mother of 3 boys, and a Healthy Relationship Facilitator here at First Things First! Take a peek at her recommendations for this week because they are just THAT GOOD. Check ’em out 👀:
📗 10 Great Dates Before You Say I Do– This book by Curt and Natelle Brown & Dave and Claudia Arp is an oldie but goodie when it comes to engaged couples.
🎧 Reimagining Love Podcast– Dr. Solomon is a dynamic speaker and author. She has been studying relationships for over 20 years as a couples therapist and professor.
📖 Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married– This book by Gary Chapman provides wonderful guidance on the topics that matter most to newly married couples from sex to money to how to apologize. It’s a wonderful resource.
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