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3 ways to have better sex in marriage

I have good news for you: an exciting sex life is salvageable and well within your reach for you and your spouse.

Here are three ways you and your spouse can take your sexual relationship from mundane to mind-blowing:

1.) Don’t make fun the point of sex.

Sex is about connecting, bolstering intimacy, and exercising vulnerability with the one you’ve chosen to love the most. It’s a part of your relationship that’s meant to strengthen your relationship. If the attention to your sex life with your spouse is centered merely on fun, you forget the overall essential role sex plays in your marriage, and the irony is that fun becomes a casualty.

2.) Dedicate to communicate.

Couples who struggle with communication struggle with other areas of their marriage, including their sex life; it’s all connected. But those who work on better, healthier ways to communicate thoughts, feelings, and needs with each other experience more connection, friendship, and intimacy. And this, as we’ve learned, is directly correlated with healthy (and fun) sex!

3.) Super-glue your marriage—including your sex life—to the top of the priority scale.

This is crucial, especially if you have children (of any age) running around your house. Life is busy, schedules are hectic, money is tight. Attention to your marriage and your spouse must supersede these potential speed bumps.

You can rejuvenate your sex life AND your marriage!

steps to a productive marriage check-in

Staying on the same page with your spouse doesn’t happen by accident. 

Businesses have staff meetings. Sports have team meetings. And marriages need marriage meetings. We’ll call these Marriage Check-Ins.

A Marriage Check-In is when you and your spouse meet to talk about marriage and family stuff.

Steps to a Productive Marriage Check-In:

• Set a Time

  Saturday mornings before kids need you and Sunday evenings after kids’ bedtimes are two great times. Put it on your calendar. Set the notifications. If you have to miss it, you can reschedule it right then.

• Parameters/Boundaries

  No kids allowed. No technology except when it’s obviously adding to the value of the meeting, e.g., using your calendar or planning a date and looking up attractions.

• Environment

  You’ll probably have a routine. You may discuss on Saturday mornings over coffee or sit on the couch after the kids are in bed. Occasionally, change it up.

• Always start by Appreciating Your Spouse

  Your spouse will look forward to the check-ins because they know they’ll hear something positive about themselves.

• Discuss upcoming schedules

  Work schedule/changes, community meetings or activities, kids’ events, and social calendar all fall into this category.

• Listen to Your Spouse’s Emotional, Mental, and Physical Needs

  Generally, save this for last because it’s the most open-ended

Connect, grow, and course-correct. Your marriage will thank you!