January 07, 2022
top trending topics
💔 Help your teen navigate through breakups with ease.
💻 Caught your teen looking at porn? Don’t do this.
😞 Should you try to help your child’s troubled marriage?
🛡️ Adult child consistently relying on you to come to their rescue? It’s a great day to set some clear boundaries.
👏 Help your child to have the confidence they need.
tips & tricks for growth
raising good kids doesn’t have to be a daily struggle
Any parent headed home with their first child is probably a bit nervous about this whole parenthood thing. You really want to raise good kids, but unfortunately, each unique baby doesn’t come with its own manual. Wouldn’t that be nice though?
Whether you shop local or go to Amazon for parenting help, hundreds of books offer different perspectives on the best way to raise good children. In spite of the many approaches, however, a group of Harvard psychologists found that it really boils down to some very basic strategies.
1. Spend time with your children.
2. Model the behavior you want to see.
3. Show your child how to care for others and set high ethical expectations.
4. Teach your child to be appreciative and grateful.
5. Teach them how to see beyond themselves.
The children in the Harvard study thought their own happiness and self-esteem was really important to their parents. Instead of being overly concerned that kids are always happy, you can emphasize how to be kind to others in their world, whether it’s the bus driver, the Walmart greeter or the referee at the sports event. Focusing on these things will help you raise children who are caring, kind, courageous and responsible.
parent your kids without yelling
At some point, I decided I can’t keep losing it. I can’t keep yelling at my kids when they fail to meet my expectations or they simply don’t do what I’ve told them to do. I can’t continue to scream at them to get them to listen to me, and I can’t frighten them into respecting my role as their parent. Anyone relate?
Research shows that yelling at your kids out of anger or frustration can damage them emotionally. Researchers also found that adolescents who had experienced harsh verbal discipline suffered from increased levels of depressive symptoms, and were more likely to demonstrate behavioral problems such as vandalism or antisocial and aggressive behavior. I don’t want to yell at my kids, but sometimes there seems to be no other way to get their attention.
So, how do you actually stop yelling at your kids?
🚫 Allow the consequences to do your screaming for you.
🚫 Know Your Triggers.
🚫 Take a Timeout.
🚫 Put on Your Own Oxygen Mask.
Remember kids will be kids! Let’s save the yelling for the real, physical danger that calls for drastic, immediate action.
what we’re lovin’
This week’s picks come from James Woods, Fiancé to Marquita, Dad of 6, and the Community Outreach Specialist here at First Things First. Take a peek at his recommendations for this week because they are just THAT GOOD. Check ’em out 👀:
📲 @BigLifeJournal on Instagram– Is a powerful, great reminder for parents of all ages that they’re not alone or the only ones who go through certain situations.
🔕 You’re on Mute– If you’re ready to laugh at the table this is the game for you and the family. Not too expensive and the kids will definitely have a great time talking to each other, so it is a good tool for small talk.
😂 @Dadsaysjokes on Instagram– Definitely a must-follow! Sometimes you just have to smile and laugh. This will totally help you find humor in parenting.
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