💪 Strengthen the relationships in your life with a little gratitude. 🎉Congrats! You’re engaged, and of course, everyone’s giving you their relationship advice. ✅ Setting realistic expectations for your future marriage makes all the difference. ✨ Married life doesn’t have to be boring! Make sure you’re future is full of fun! 🔀 It’s normal for your relationship dynamic to change after you get married.

handle disappointment from your partner with ease

Disappointment in your fiancé can spark uncertainty and shake your trust. It might even make you wonder if you can relyon them at all.

First, let me just say: You’re not alone, and every engaged person disappoints their future spouse at some point. Your feelings are honest, legit, and okay. And even though disappointment is common in marriage, knowing that doesn’t really make things easier. So let’s talk about it.

Here are some things to consider:

📍Unmet expectations breed disappointment. 

Ask yourself: 

What do you expect from your fiancé? How do your expectations connect to your overall relationship goals? 

📍Disappointment comes in different flavors.

Ask yourself: 

What exactly did your fiancé do or not do that disappointed you? 

Is the disappointment in something specific or general? Issues that are minor or major? 

📍You are coping with your disappointment in one way or another. 

Ask yourself: 

How are you coping or responding right now? Would you say your responses are healthy or unhealthy? 

📍Be careful about what your disappointment might lead you to assume. 

Ask yourself: 

Why might your fiancé have acted (or failed to act) the way they did that led to your disappointment? 

A healthy response to disappointment can be a game-changer for your future marriage.

you can be an emotionally safe space for your fiancé

You want to be your fiancé’s hero? Their most trusted confidant? The one who supports them and helps them flourish? The one they share their wildest, most audacious dreams with?

None of it happens if you aren’t the emotionally safe person your partner needs. With you, they feel safe to be transparent, vulnerable, authentic, flawed, and emotional. They’re free to be themselves.

Side note: Just because you’re emotionally safe doesn’t mean they will always feel safe. Your fiancé may have their own barriers to work through. You can’t control that. But the safer you are, the more space and freedom your partner will have to clearly see themselves and even grow through their experiences.

Here’s a few ways you can be the partner they need:

💛 Be secure within yourself.

💛 Show genuine curiosity about your spouse.

💛 Express honesty with humility.

💛 Ask, “What makes you feel emotionally safe with me?”

💛 Communicate with gentleness and gratitude.

💛 Be Inviting.

You can set your fiancé free to be themselves with you.