“Low effort family” is a new term trending across social media. With therapists, researchers and relationship enthusiasts weighing in and providing different definitions of what a “low effort family” looks like, I had to do my own research. Some families run on “auto-pilot.” Plans are last minute. Rules change depending on who’s tired. Conversations are…
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Anger gets a bad rap. But anger isn’t the villain in your relationship. It’s more like your body’s push notification: “Something feels unfair, unsafe, or important—please look here.” The trouble is that when anger is loud, we tend to do one of two things: explode (control) or shut down (connection at any cost). Neither one…
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These days, “be authentic” gets tossed around like seasoning. A pinch here, a dash there, suddenly everyone’s an expert. But if authenticity is just “saying whatever I want whenever I want,” then we’ve reinvented rudeness with better branding. Real authenticity is deeper than unfiltered opinions. Psychologists who study it describe authenticity as a meaningful, complicated…
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What High Vs. Low Effort Looks Like in Families
“Low effort family” is a new term trending across social media. With therapists, researchers and relationship enthusiasts weighing in and providing different definitions of what a “low effort family” looks like, I had to do my own research. Some families run on “auto-pilot.” Plans are last minute. Rules change depending on who’s tired. Conversations are…
How to Be Mad and Still Be Kind
Anger gets a bad rap. But anger isn’t the villain in your relationship. It’s more like your body’s push notification: “Something feels unfair, unsafe, or important—please look here.” The trouble is that when anger is loud, we tend to do one of two things: explode (control) or shut down (connection at any cost). Neither one…
The Real You: Authenticity, Genuineness, and the “Why” Behind How We Show Up
These days, “be authentic” gets tossed around like seasoning. A pinch here, a dash there, suddenly everyone’s an expert. But if authenticity is just “saying whatever I want whenever I want,” then we’ve reinvented rudeness with better branding. Real authenticity is deeper than unfiltered opinions. Psychologists who study it describe authenticity as a meaningful, complicated…