Here's help when you have to navigate some really hard conversations with your child.
One of the biggest challenges of parenthood is explaining to your children about bad things that happen in our world. How do you talk with children about violence, death and other issues that are often difficult for even adults to handle?Examine your own feelings first. It is difficult to talk with your children if you have not evaluated your feelings about what has happened.For example, talking about death makes many people uncomfortable.
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When your identity has been wrapped up in parenting, it can be hard to regain your footing.
The house is SO quiet and your heart feels a bit heavy. You have definitely shed some tears. You have also stayed awake wondering if you prepared them well to be successful out on their own.
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One October, Kelly Flanagan’s friend texted him while walking down the makeup aisle to pick something up for his wife. The text said, “Expectations on this aisle are oppressive.”“That text was unsettling to me,” says Dr. Flanagan, husband, dad and clinical psychologist.
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A teen's choices can impact them more than they realize.
There is an ongoing debate about whether teen sex is really harmful over time.Drs. Joe McIlhaney and Freda McKissic Bush, authors of Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex is Affecting Our Children, contend that casual sex during the teen and young adult years affects the ability to bond later in life.Imagine you adhere a strip of clear shipping tape to your sweater to remove lint. The first time you pull it off, it grabs fuzz and some hair.
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You might be the parent of a young adult if you:Still pay their car insurance because your name is on the car title.Have paid for a new tire because they don’t have any money to pay for it. Besides, it's their only way to get back and forth to work.Have argued with them about how much they eat out and they do not understand your concern.Still pay their cell phone bill because they are part of the “family plan.”Saw them really struggling with something and, although you want…
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Everyone can help to make sure kids have the role models they need.
Many boys today don’t know what it means to be a man because they don’t have a man in their lives. Sadly, children will go to bed tonight without saying goodnight to their father because he just isn’t there.Nearly one-fourth of America’s children live in mother-only families. Locally, 39 percent of Hamilton County families are headed by a single mother.Of the children living with their mothers, 35 percent never see their father.
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In 2014, NBA superstar LeBron James posted a picture of himself, and an open letter to his father, on Instagram:“Like wow dad, you know what, I don’t know you, I have no idea who you are but because of you is part of the reason who I am today. The fuel that I use — you not being there — it’s part of the reason I grew up to become who I am. It’s part of the reason why I want to be hands on with my endeavors … So me in a position allowing people around me to grow that maybe wouldn’t have happened …
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Sara and Jonathan Emanuel have five children between the ages of 3 and 13. At one point, their kids participated in cheer, dance, baseball, swim, tennis, Indian Princess and Girl Scouts.“In our home with children involved in this many activities, not to mention school and church youth group, we never had a moment that wasn’t filled,” says Sara. “I got to a point a couple of years ago where I hit a wall and didn’t want to do anything because I was so overwhelmed.
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How to Talk to Your Children When Bad Things Happen
One of the biggest challenges of parenthood is explaining to your children about bad things that happen in our world. How do you talk with children about violence, death and other issues that are often difficult for even adults to handle?Examine your own feelings first. It is difficult to talk with your children if you have not evaluated your feelings about what has happened.For example, talking about death makes many people uncomfortable.
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The house is SO quiet and your heart feels a bit heavy. You have definitely shed some tears. You have also stayed awake wondering if you prepared them well to be successful out on their own.
A Dad’s Letter to His Daughter
One October, Kelly Flanagan’s friend texted him while walking down the makeup aisle to pick something up for his wife. The text said, “Expectations on this aisle are oppressive.”“That text was unsettling to me,” says Dr. Flanagan, husband, dad and clinical psychologist.
Teen Sex and the Brain
There is an ongoing debate about whether teen sex is really harmful over time.Drs. Joe McIlhaney and Freda McKissic Bush, authors of Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex is Affecting Our Children, contend that casual sex during the teen and young adult years affects the ability to bond later in life.Imagine you adhere a strip of clear shipping tape to your sweater to remove lint. The first time you pull it off, it grabs fuzz and some hair.
Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours
Your child reaches for a candy bar at the checkout counter and you say, “No.” He proceeds to throw a tantrum. Do you:A. Plead with him to stop?B.
Setting Boundaries With Adult Children
You might be the parent of a young adult if you:Still pay their car insurance because your name is on the car title.Have paid for a new tire because they don’t have any money to pay for it. Besides, it's their only way to get back and forth to work.Have argued with them about how much they eat out and they do not understand your concern.Still pay their cell phone bill because they are part of the “family plan.”Saw them really struggling with something and, although you want…
The Importance of Positive Male Role Models
Many boys today don’t know what it means to be a man because they don’t have a man in their lives. Sadly, children will go to bed tonight without saying goodnight to their father because he just isn’t there.Nearly one-fourth of America’s children live in mother-only families. Locally, 39 percent of Hamilton County families are headed by a single mother.Of the children living with their mothers, 35 percent never see their father.
Dealing With Anger From Having an Absent Father
In 2014, NBA superstar LeBron James posted a picture of himself, and an open letter to his father, on Instagram:“Like wow dad, you know what, I don’t know you, I have no idea who you are but because of you is part of the reason who I am today. The fuel that I use — you not being there — it’s part of the reason I grew up to become who I am. It’s part of the reason why I want to be hands on with my endeavors … So me in a position allowing people around me to grow that maybe wouldn’t have happened …
Making the Most of Family Time
Sara and Jonathan Emanuel have five children between the ages of 3 and 13. At one point, their kids participated in cheer, dance, baseball, swim, tennis, Indian Princess and Girl Scouts.“In our home with children involved in this many activities, not to mention school and church youth group, we never had a moment that wasn’t filled,” says Sara. “I got to a point a couple of years ago where I hit a wall and didn’t want to do anything because I was so overwhelmed.
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