November 12, 2021
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6 exercises to strengthen emotional intimacy in your marriage
When your relationship has a high level of emotional intimacy, you share your feelings, needs, fears, successes, and failures knowing you will continue to be loved and cared for by your partner.
Building strong intimacy in your marriage can give your marriage the satisfying fulfillment you desire.
Here are 6 exercises to start strengthening your emotional intimacy:
1. Do something new and engaging together.
2. Show affection.
3. Do marriage enrichment together.
4. Make time to talk.
5. Celebrate your togetherness.
6. Make the most of pillow talk.
Each of these 6 exercises on their own may not strengthen your emotional intimacy. However, if you do these with a heart of gratitude and appreciation toward your partner and you make them a habit, you’ll begin to feel closer and more connected. You’ll find yourself sharing more of yourself and getting to know your partner more fully.
how to communicate better with your spouse
What would the world be like without good communication?
Airports would be a complete wreck (figuratively and literally).
Kids couldn’t learn reading, writing, ’rithmetic, and computer coding.
The barista at Starbucks would write a completely different name on my cup for my order. (Okay, well, that happens anyway.)
Not to mention… marriage would be chaotic!
Fortunately, communication in marriage isn’t some tricky thing that some people have, and some don’t. It’s a skill that you, me, and everyone else can practice and improve.
Here are six of the most crucial skills you can use to communicate better with your spouse:
1. Practice the art of listening well.
Listening well means seeking to understand. It’s putting yourself in your spouse’s shoes.
2. Ask lots of questions.
The ultimate goal of healthy communication in marriage is to connect. Be curious for the sake of knowing your husband or wife better and how you can strengthen your relationship.
3. Go deeper in your communication.
Communication can be shallow: My day was good. How was yours? I’m kinda tired. Tomorrow is Friday… But marriage can’t thrive in the shallow end of the pool; it has to take deeper dives.
4. Practice vulnerability.
Being vulnerable means showing more of who you are. Which means opening yourself up. And that takes trust, which is vital for a healthy marriage.
5. Practice often.
Schedule times to talk and connect with each other on deeper levels, even if it’s for just a few minutes. The average couple communicates for only 20 minutes a week; choose not to be average.
6. Learn to work through conflict well.
Disagreements are gonna happen. That’s part of marriage. But how you communicate through disagreements makes all the difference.
These six skills can transform your relationship.
what we’re lovin’
This week’s picks come from Tamara Slocum, our Creative Strategist. She’s been married to her college sweetheart, Bobby, since 2012 and together they have 3 amazing girls (5 yrs old and under!) Whew. 😅 She’s got her hands full and still took the time to give her recommendations because they are just THAT GOOD. Check ’em out:
📗 How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn tackles the inevitable fury that mamas often experience toward their spouses after kids come into the picture (and the ways you can improve your relationship, finding an ally in your husband instead of an adversary)! After reading this, wow, I felt totally seen. In fact, here’s an interview of my biggest takeaways from the book!
😂 Weird Things All Couples Fight About is just one of my fav Buzzfeed videos of all time. Because it’s soooo true. Watch for a good laugh.
🔥 Why Sex Dies in Marriage (and How to Revive It) by John Daum is such a game-changer. Seriously. If you wanna improve your intimacy — this e-book is the way to do it! (Literally.)
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