November 11, 2022
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⤵️ Reduce your risk of divorce & protect your future marriage.
💍 You’re engaged, and everyone has advice for you… Here’s how you can handle it.
🤭 Don’t let this #1 thing secretly ruin your future marriage.
💒 Survive the stress of wedding planning with these helpful tips.
⛈️ Read this on those days when it feels like everything is falling a part…
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knowing this ahead of time can lead to a happier marriage
Most couples anticipate having a long, happy marriage. And they should! But if you’ve been married any amount of time, you probably recognize it’s not always smooth sailing. Your marriage is going to get rocked by waves. Sure, there will be times when the sun is shining and the seas are calm. Just know before you get married, there will be storms ahead. But you can navigate the storms and make it through.
Here are 6 things to know before you get married:
🚨 Being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage.
💛 Romantic love has two stages.
👩👧👨👦 The saying, “like mother, like daughter” and “like father, like son” is not a myth.
🗣 How to solve disagreements without arguing.
💪 Apologizing is a sign of strength.
🔥 Mutual sexual fulfillment is not automatic.
Married life won’t always be smooth sailing, but you can navigate the storms together and enjoy those smooth seas. There is beauty in every phase of a relationship!
respect totally matters in your future marriage-here’s why
Respect may best be defined as the way you show true appreciation for another person. Respect is an action, not just a feeling. It’s a declaration of value for someone. We demonstrate respect by how we behave toward another person.
Respect in a healthy marriage is a two-way street. Both parties in the relationship crave and deserve equal respect from the other, and rightly so. Respect is shown in marriage not because one person is more superior than the other, but because each person recognizes the value of the other.
In marriage, mutual respect matters. But why? Why does mutual respect play such a critical part in a healthy marriage?
Mutual respect…
🤝 eliminates the fear of being different.
🤝 upholds healthy boundaries in the relationship.
🤝 compels you to “check your jersey” when you have disagreements.
🤝 strengthens the friendship between you and your future spouse.
Find the ways to appreciate your future spouse—differences and all—and show that appreciation on a daily basis.
let’s get REALatable
It’s time to take things a step further & get a little intimate with a Q&A. What do you say?😉 Learn a little bit about the faces behind all of this relationship gold. This week we’re chatting with Gena Ellis, wife to her college sweetheart, mother of 3 boys, and a Relationship Coach here at First Things First! Let’s get REALatable💛 & learn a little bit about her:
Q: What’s your biggest pet peeve?
A: 🙃 Ungratefulness. I believe that people don’t have to do anything for you. If they choose to, the least you can do is say thank you. Gratitude is one of the surest ways for you to insure that someone feels seen, heard and understood. When you choose not to acknowledge someone, it not only minimizes them, but it minimizes you. It creates a sense of entitlement of what people should do for you.
Q: Best part of being a mom?
A: 💛 Witnessing my sons grow into the men they were created to be. My goal as a mom was to be the type of mom each of my sons needed. Because they are 3 different people, in turn, I had to be a different mom for each of them. It does this mom’s heart good seeing my young men make good decisions for their lives. Sometimes, they even ask my opinion. I even share it knowing it’s within their power to make the final decision.
Q: Would you rather have a clean house or a clean car?
A: 🏡 A clean HOUSE. I admit that I am organizationally challenged and a pack-rat. I have tried different organizational systems, but none seem to work for me. I’m realizing maybe they don’t work because I don’t work them…🤣
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