April 15, 2022
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tips for extroverts marrying introverts
I’m sure you want to understand and appreciate your future spouse, and it can be hard sometimes. But I’m here to tell you: When extroverts are married to introverts, it can be a good thing — a great thing, even! You just have to figure a few things out and appreciate your differences.
If you are an extrovert marrying an Introvert, here are some things they probably wish you knew:
Being an introvert doesn’t mean they don’t like people.
As an introvert, your fiancé does like people, but being around them requires them to use a lot of emotional energy. To restore themselves, they need time alone.
Have a set game plan.
Whether you’re planning a dinner party for friends or want to attend the office holiday party, talk about it with your fiancé. Consider things like date, time, location, and the number of people. Once plans have been set, try not to change them at the last minute.
Accept, and don’t judge them.
If you’re at a social gathering, your introverted fiancé may want to be near you. They may need your presence as support. While you want to “work the room,” realize that may be uncomfortable for them.
They need alone time.
After spending time with people, your fiancé will need time to recharge. While you may be over the moon about spending time with people (and energized afterward), being around people can cause stress in your future spouse.
These tricks can help you understand and appreciate each other!
tips for introverts marrying extroverts
We’re all wired differently, and the differences are never more evident than in marriage. While navigating differences in relationships can present challenges, you’ll go deeper as your relationship grows and you become a student of your future spouse. Couples often encounter differences when one fiancé is introverted and the other is extroverted.
What does an introvert marrying an extrovert need to know?
Navigating social settings.
For the introverted fiancé who likes to be alone, this can be a struggle. If they do go out in the crowd, they often want to be out of the spotlight. But if you know that your fiancé is energized by being around others, you should talk about this. It’s not fair to prevent them from being in social settings, but it’s also unfair to always send them alone.
Talking about their problems.
Extroverts usually find it easy to talk out their problems with others. They’re often more than willing to express their feelings, thoughts, and issues.
On the other hand, introverts tend to internalize and think through things. They dislike conflict and will withhold their thoughts to avoid confrontation.
Extroverts aren’t afraid of risk. They may be more apt to engage in risky behavior than an introvert. Some studies have shown that they are wired this way. Their brain rewards them when risks go well.
These are just a few ways that introverts and extroverts differ. Remember, this is a spectrum, and you both may find yourselves at varying degrees on that spectrum. Marriage is about learning from each other and growing together.
Knowing who you are individually and together can make you stronger.
what we’re lovin’
This week’s picks come from Lauren Hall, wife of 7 years to Daniel, toddler momma, dog momma, and the CEO here at First Things First. Take a peek at her recommendations for this week because they are just THAT GOOD. Check ’em out 👀:
💛 Loveology Curated relationship resources from the world’s most well-known therapists, researchers and educators. Blogs and vlogs are free, while more in-depth courses and books are available for a cost. Check it out! You’re sure to learn something new.
🎨 Coolors Not sure what you want your wedding colors to be? Use this FREE tool to bring it all together. Each spouse can choose their favorite color, and the generator will fill in the complementary shades. (I first used this tool to design our wedding invites, and now I use it to decorate our house, etc. It’s AMAZEEEEing.)
😋 Filling Spring Casserole Love is in the air! Or is it pollen? Either way, this recipe is eaten best on a picnic blanket in the park, with fresh air and blue skies to complete the moment. Take a break from the wedding planning and treat your relationship to some yummy food and time together.
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