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tips & tricks for growth
validate how your spouse is feeling
Validation is the act of helping someone feel heard and understood. Often when we share our feelings, we aren’t seeking advice; we’re seeking validation. We want to know that what we feel is valid and our thoughts have worth. Researchers have found that validation is critical to our relational, physical, and emotional health.
Show your spouse validation:
👂 Listen, listen, listen.
💛 Empathy goes a long way.
🔁 Repeat what they share.
👍 Normalize their feelings.
👀 See it through their eyes.
🤗 Touch them.
💃 Use your body.
Look for replies that validate the feelings your spouse has expressed. You may disagree with them (and that’s ok), but their feelings have value.
balancing act: marriage & kids
There’s no question that parenting focuses a lot of energy and love toward the children. And sometimes it becomes a challenge to have anything left for your spouse.
While research indicates that marital satisfaction decreases when you have children, it doesn’t mean you should throw in the towel. Many assume that after children come along, the kids should be the main focus. But studies show that child-centered marriages are the most at risk for distress. Focusing on building a strong marriage is a wonderful thing to give your children… and yourself. But, any parent can tell you that’s easier said than done!
Here are a few quick tips to help you balance married life & parenthood:
Look for the good and overlook the bad
Give two compliments every day
Pick your battles
Be intentional about spending time with your spouse