November 11, 2022
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🤭 Don’t let this #1 thing secretly ruin your marriage.
⛈️ Read this on those days when it feels like everything is falling a part…
😔 Feeling like your spouse is a bad parent? Here’s what you can do.
💔 If your child’s marriage is falling apart, these tips can help you navigate.
👥 If you love your spouse, but you’re thinking about having an affair, consider these things…
tips & tricks for growth
you’re bringing sexy back-yep!
*Immediately sings Justin Timberlake in head*
I love talking about sex. No, not in a pervy way. Let me explain: I think more problems happen when sex is not discussed than when it is, especiallyamong married couples. Get this: even nerdy science says couples who talk about sex have much healthier… and dare I say, steamier…sex lives than those who don’t! Kind of makes you want to cue up the conversations!
But just what exactly should you talk about? Uhhh… honey, I like sex… do you like sex?… Ok, cool…
No, no, not like that! There are a gazillion great questions to help couples discuss sex. Questions about likes & dislikes, turn-ons & turn-offs, mood-makers & mood-killers.
So, because I love talking about sex, and because I want you to love talking about sex, here are 7 questions every couple (That’s you!) needs to ask to improve their sex life.
By Chris Ownby | Research Strategist @ FTF
respect totally matters in marriage-here’s why
Respect may best be defined as the way you show true appreciation for another person. Respect is an action, not just a feeling. It’s a declaration of value for someone. We demonstrate respect by how we behave toward another person.
Respect in a healthy marriage is a two-way street. Both parties in the relationship crave and deserve equal respect from the other, and rightly so. Respect is shown in marriage not because one person is more superior than the other, but because each person recognizes the value of the other.
In marriage, mutual respect matters. But why? Why does mutual respect play such a critical part in a healthy marriage?
Mutual respect…
🤝 eliminates the fear of being different.
🤝 upholds healthy boundaries in the relationship.
🤝 compels you to “check your jersey” when you have disagreements.
🤝 strengthens the friendship between you and your spouse.
Find the ways to appreciate your spouse—differences and all—and show that appreciation on a daily basis.
let’s get REALatable
It’s time to take things a step further & get a little intimate with a Q&A. What do you say?😉 Learn a little bit about the faces behind all of this relationship gold. This week we’re chatting with Gena Ellis, wife to her college sweetheart, mother of 3 boys, and a Relationship Coach here at First Things First! Let’s get REALatable💛 & learn a little bit about her:
Q: What’s your biggest pet peeve?
A: 🙃 Ungratefulness. I believe that people don’t have to do anything for you. If they choose to, the least you can do is say thank you. Gratitude is one of the surest ways for you to insure that someone feels seen, heard and understood. When you choose not to acknowledge someone, it not only minimizes them, but it minimizes you. It creates a sense of entitlement of what people should do for you.
Q: Best part of being a mom?
A: 💛 Witnessing my sons grow into the men they were created to be. My goal as a mom was to be the type of mom each of my sons needed. Because they are 3 different people, in turn, I had to be a different mom for each of them. It does this mom’s heart good seeing my young men make good decisions for their lives. Sometimes, they even ask my opinion. I even share it knowing it’s within their power to make the final decision.
Q: Would you rather have a clean house or a clean car?
A: 🏡 A clean HOUSE. I admit that I am organizationally challenged and a pack-rat. I have tried different organizational systems, but none seem to work for me. I’m realizing maybe they don’t work because I don’t work them…🤣
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