November 04, 2022
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💍 Being engaged is a whirlwind! Here are some things no one tells you about the engagement period.
✅ Setting realistic expectations for your future marriage makes all the difference.
📆 If your fiancé is apprehensive about setting a wedding date, here’s what you can do.
tips & tricks for growth
have these important convos before you say, “i do!”
While you’re engaged, conversations tend to hover endlessly around the wedding day, and naturally so. Though working out the details and planning your celebration is exciting, having conversations about other topics is important, too.
You and your fiancé are stepping into something beautiful—a promise of commitment, a proclamation of loving each other now and falling in love over and over again, a 24/7 best friend, and a person who wants to love you at your best and through the worst. You owe it to each other to take the time to appreciate what you have and to continue the pursuit.
One way to pursue each other is to sit down and have important conversations like…
🗣️ Talk about the importance of marriage, what it means to you both and what you hope for it to look like.
🗣️ Do you want children?
🗣️ How do you handle conflict and what rules do you want to establish on how to fight when you do?
🗣️ Talk through your finances.
🗣️ Intimacy in your relationship.
Get personal with your sweetheart. Start out your marriage with the muscle memory of talking through tough conversations, how you want to love each other and what’s important to you. The more you communicate, the richer the potential for a lovely life together. Now who’s ready to say I do?
you can find ways to divide those household chores fairly
Dishes, laundry, yardwork, cleaning, cooking… oh my! The chore list is long, and the questions are many. Who will do what? How will we make this fair? Am I going to be doing too much? Will my fiancé do enough?
A big part of marriage is managing and maintaining a house and all the responsibilities a home can bring. So, where should you begin?
Here are some scenarios to think through as you talk about how you will divide household chores fairly once you’re married:
- You both will be working full-time and focused on establishing your careers.
- One of you works from home.
- One of you is thinking about a career change.
There may be a season where one of you will carry more household chores due to other circumstances. No matter what, you need to agree about what will work for your family.
Addressing household chores isn’t a one-time conversation either. It needs to happen often. Different seasons of life bring different responsibilities!
let’s get REALatable
It’s time to take things a step further & get a little intimate with a Q&A. What do you say?😉 Learn a little bit about the faces behind all of this relationship gold. This week we’re chatting with Reggie Madison, a husband, dad of 7 (Yes, you read that right, he and his wife are wayyy outnumbered!), and the VP of Community Relations here at First Things First. Let’s get REALatable💛 & learn a little bit about him:
Q: Would you rather always have to watch the same movie or listen to the same song?
A: 🎶 Same Song – Songs do something for my mood, attitude and energy. Listening to the same song can help me have the right energy always. However, I can easily make the case for always watching the same movie, but I won’t. Listen to the same song is my final answer.
Q: One thing you want to learn?
A: 🌊 Scuba Diving – I actually tried once but I couldn’t handle the deep waters.
Q: First concert?
A: 🎤 First Concert – New Edition/Al B. Sure/Bobby Brown Concert in 1989. At 11 years old, my cousins took me to the UTC Arena for a night of some of the best R&B performers of the 80s.
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