January 20, 2023
top trending topics
🤕 Ouch! Your spouse talked behind your back. Now what??
💓 You can make your spouse feel loved when you validate their feelings.
🖐 Thinking your spouse toxic? You might wanna read this.
😰 Burnout is SO real. Here’s how you can help your spouse through it!
🚨 Ask these questions to your spouse & watch your sex life flourish!
tips & tricks for growth
trust is the glue you need
Trust is the foundation of a healthy marriage. It’s like oil in a car engine, heat in an oven, Beyoncé in Destiny’s Child. Without it, things just don’t work well.
Ideally, marital trust should grow with time. It’s a glue in your relationship that ought to get stronger, even though it isn’t always the case. Trust can rust.
The good news is you can strengthen that glue.💛
We all have the power to value or devalue a marriage, to help or hurt our spouse’s well-being. Think about it: the next words I choose to say to my wife can either make her smile or cry or make her just plain mad. I’ve got that power. (So does she.) And my words will make me look more or less trustworthy in her eyes.
A big part of increasing trust in marriage is channeling that power to be beneficial and to do that often.
Want to increase trust in your marriage?
taking care of yourself while caring for others
Have you ever felt like you’ve cared so much you just can’t anymore? Like you’re exhausted from taking care of others?😰 Even if you’ve never heard of compassion fatigue, you may be familiar with what it is. Maybe more familiar than you’d like.
What is compassion fatigue?!
Psychologist Charles Figley says it’s “a state of exhaustion and dysfunction, biologically, physiologically and emotionally, as a result of prolonged exposure to compassion stress.” In essence, it’s feeling like you have no more empathy to give…
Let’s face it: Life can be downright draining.
🤕 The root of compassion fatigue is in caring for others. It would be easy to confuse compassion fatigue with burnout, but they’re a bit different.
So, how can you take proper steps to care for yourself too?
let’s get REALatable
It’s time to take things a step further & get a little intimate with a Q&A. What do you say?😉 Learn a little bit about the faces behind all of this relationship gold. This week we’re chatting with James Woods, husband to Marquita, dad of 6, and the Community Outreach Specialist here at First Things First. Let’s get REALatable💛 & learn a little bit about him:
Q: What’s a hidden talent of yours?
A: 🕺Some might not know that I really love to dance! I’ve been performing for years– In my dancing days, I even opened up for Destiny’s Child (*Gasp*), modeled clothes and performed in tons of talent shows.
Q: Least favorite type of food?
A: 🥦 I’m a picky eater and I don’t like broccoli. Even the smell of it really bothers me! Sorry, I know you need your greens but I’m definitely working on eating them more.
Q: Who’s made a big impact on you and why?
A: ✨ T.D. Jakes has really made a strong impact on me! The delivery of his messages are powerful and have helped me through a lot of tough times!
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