December 17, 2021
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get along with your fiancé’s siblings this holiday
Sometimes a fiancé comes with extras… like their family. At times, those relationships bring added joy and challenges, especially when it comes to your fiancé’s siblings.
So how do you foster a good relationship and get along with your future spouse’s siblings?
Of course, a lot depends on the context. How well does your fiancé get along with their siblings? What’s their stage of life and personality? How does your future spouse’s family function overall? These factors often affect what getting along with your fiancé’s siblings looks like.
But if you keep the following tips in mind, you’re more likely to have good sibling-in-law relationships.
1. Have Realistic Expectations
2. Look for Opportunities to Support
3. Invite Them to Be a Part of Your World With Your Fiancé
4. Avoid Turning Down Invitations to Be in Their World
5. Keep Your Relationship First
Fostering good relationships with your in-laws is a win for your future marriage.
be in the here and now when you’re talking to friends & family
Want to be successful and valued at work and at home—really anywhere? Be present with who you are with and who you are talking to. I know you’re gonna say, “But I am present—I’m standing right next to them!” That’s the easy part of being present. The hard part is being mentally present.
It’s impossible to be mentally present with someone when we are full of our own thoughts. Our minds are usually rethinking the past or wondering about the future.
A study by Harvard University psychologists concluded that we spend 46.9% of our waking hours thinking about something other than what we’re doing. In conversations, we are often waiting for our chance to speak, thinking of something interesting to say, or thinking about our appearance and the impression we are making.
We aren’t listening. We aren’t present. Be mindful of the moment you’re in.
Practice a few of these tips to be more present with your kids, friends, family, etc., and see the difference it makes. You can do it!
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This week’s picks come from Kris Nash, wife to her husband of 25 years, Greg, Mom of 3 girls, and the Editor here at First Things First. Take a peek at her recommendations for this week because they are just THAT GOOD. Check ’em out👀:
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