September 16, 2022
top trending topics
⚠️ Even if you equally parent, there’s naturally always a default parent.
🎒 So your child got in trouble at school…
💻 Dos & don’ts for talking to your teen about watching porn.
❤️ If your adult child is living at home, set boundaries that will help them grow.
🍼 1st time parents, buckle up & enjoy the ride with these tips.
tips & tricks for growth
fighting in-front of your children…
It is inevitable that you and your spouse will have a disagreement in front of your kids. How you handle these disagreements can have a great impact on them. If you choose to work through conflict with your spouse in front of your kids, here are a few things to be aware of….
How NOT to fight:
❌ Never attack one another physically or emotionally. That’s domestic violence.
❌ Don’t manipulate, intimidate, or threaten your spouse. Threatening to walk out, leave the marriage, or do something that is hurtful or permanent can leave scars that wound for years.
❌ Never put the kids in the middle of your argument. They should not be choosing sides or used as a pawn to help you win your argument.
What NOT to fight about in-front of the kids:
There are some things that are simply a bad idea to argue about in front of the kids.
If you’re going to fight in front of the kids, then you should definitely make up in front of the kids. (No, not that kind of “make up.” Shame on you! 😳 ) A hug and a kiss in front of the kids is plenty. Verbally affirming your love, respect, and commitment for one another also sends the message that your commitment to one another is bigger than the disagreement.
Remember: Arguing in front of your children can be damaging to them, especially when it’s not done in a healthy and productive manner.
sure signs you have (or are) a good friend
Am I a good friend? That’s a great introspective, self-aware kinda question! To find the answer, you could do what any sensible person would do—take a bunch of online quizzes and see if the internet thinks you’re a good friend. (I was everything from a “BFF” to a “just-okay friend.”) OR you could ask yourself this question: “What am I looking for in a friend?”
A good friend:
1. shows up.
2. lets you be yourself…
3. … while helping you be your best self.
4. is self-aware.
5. is empathetic.
6. is trustworthy.
7. is fun, introduces you to new experiences, and helps you grow.
What you are looking for in a friend — be that person! Being a good friend and having good friends are two essential things in life.
what we’re lovin’
This week’s picks come from Mitchell Qualls, husband of 17 years to his wife Dalet, a dad of 2, and the VP of Operations here at First Things First. Take a peek at his recommendations for this week because they are just THAT GOOD. Check ’em out 👀:
💡 A new favorite in our household is the Greenlight App. Greenlight helps parents raise financially-smart kids. Kids get a debit card that parents control. They can set savings goals and determine how much to spend and how much to give away. Our kids love being able to spend their own money.
⚡ Our kids love board games (we do too)! We love Clue and Harry Potter, so what’s better than Harry Potter Clue? It’s a classic game with a few twists, including moving staircases.
😴 Bedtime can sometimes be a challenge. Our kids have fallen asleep so much better with the help of Moshi. It’s a storytelling app with loads of stories to help them calm their minds. But that’s not all. There are also meditations, calming and breathing exercises.
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