October 21, 2022
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🚩👀 If you caught your husband watching porn, here’s what you can do.
💔 Soo, now you’re wondering why your husband even watches porn…
🔑 Grit just might be the key to successful relationships. Work on modeling yours.
💬 When you find yourself chatting less with your spouse, spark more conversations together.
😓 If you’re thinking a divorce will make you happier, you may wanna read this.
tips & tricks for growth
help your spouse recover when they’re burned out
You may have noticed that your once ‘Energizer bunny’ spouse has no energy to do anything. Or they share they don’t feel right but can’t give any specific reasons. It seems like all at once, it ALL became too much. They have no motivation to work or deal with personal issues. They feel exhausted after sleeping all night. And they begin to question their capability to complete tasks from work or at home. Your loved one may be experiencing burnout.
If you believe your spouse is dealing with burnout, these strategies can help you as you help them…
💛Listen To Them
This may be one of the hardest things to do, especially if you think your spouse can accomplish anything they set their mind to do. Now, they’re questioning everything.
💛 Help Out As Much As You Can
Taking things off your spouse’s plate may help relieve the stress.
💛 Rely On Your Friends and Family (Use Your Village)
Remember—you don’t have to do everything on your own! Encouraging your spouse to spend some time with friends, family, or alone can lighten the load.
💛 Take Care of Yourself
While being supportive and non-judgmental of your spouse, it’s vital to take care of yourself.
💛 Encourage Your Mate to Find or Rediscover Hobbies
Be intentional about searching for new hobbies or finding enjoyment again in something they used to do.
💛 Re-evaluate Your Family’s Schedule
Take some time to sit down and have a conversation about your family’s schedule.
Watching your spouse struggle with burnout can make you feel helpless, but you can get through this together. It’s an opportunity to grow closer!
strengthen your friendships
Long before our homes had living rooms and dens; even before they had sitting rooms or drawing rooms, most houses had a room called a parlor.
The purpose of the parlor was to have a room set apart for simple chitchat. Sliding doors even allowed the parlor to be cut off from the rest of the house for intimate, private conversations.
We used to think conversations were so vital that we had a room in our home for them. We used to value and prioritize conversations so highly that we built a particular room in our homes which was basically named “to speak.”
Times have changed…
📲Face-to-face, in-person conversations are becoming more infrequent. We text, group chat, self-checkout, and app our way through our day. I’m genuinely expecting the phrase “keep in touch” to evolve into “keep in text.” (How is that not a thing yet?)
📵 Technology isn’t the problem. In fact, technology can allow us to stay connected to people in ways far superior to the best parlor. We do need some balance, though. There’s just something about face-to-face conversation that doesn’t translate into ones and zeros on our smartphones. The mediums we use to communicate dictate how we communicate. We need to revisit the lost art of conversation.
let’s get REALatable
It’s time to take things a step further & get a little intimate with a Q&A. What do you say?😉 Learn a little bit about the faces behind all of this relationship gold. This week we’re chatting with Lauren Hall, wife of 7 years to husband Daniel, toddler/boy mama, dog mama, and the President & CEO here at First Things First. Let’s get REALatable💛 & learn a little bit about her:
Q: First celebrity crush?
A: 💔 My first celebrity boyfriend (it was always more than a crush in my mind, it was commitment) was Leonardo DiCaprio. Keep in mind this was in the late 90’s, when he starred in Titanic and Baz Luhrmann’s Romeo + Juliet. I wrote him letters weekly and told him he could sleep in my big brother’s bunk bed. He could even have top bunk! Sadly, he never showed up for my slumber party offers.
Q: What’s your personal motto or mantra?
A: 💡My life verse: “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me.” John 14:1 Growing up, I was super close to my Papaw. (That’s the way we Southerners say “Grandpa”). He was killed in a car accident when I was 9, but the last sermon he preached was on this passage. I’ve always carried it with me as a way of life, and to help me recenter my thoughts when anxiety or doubt sets in.💛
Q: Favorite movie series?
A: 🎬 IMO, all of the BEST movie series are based on even better book series. My favorite book and movie series of all-time is The Lord of the Rings Trilogy. I love rooting for the underdog and seeing the complex battle between good and evil, light and darkness. It’s a deep allegory for humanity, but it always provides a sense of hope and purpose for the reader/viewer. Amazon recently released The Rings of Power, which is the precursor to The Lord of the Rings. If you’re looking for your next family binge (preferably with older children), check it out here.
*Based on a survey from Feldhahn, S. (2012, April 2). Surprising Secret: National Survey of Couples. Source.
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