October 07, 2022
top trending topics
💘 Pursue your spouse and feel a deeper connection.
🍂🧡 Fallll into love (See what we did there!😉) with these romantic dates.
😕 Self-care or self-sabotage? Make sure your self-care isn’t becoming selfish.
🔕 You don’t wanna do these things during an argument with your spouse… no, seriously.
🤗 When you practice generosity, it can lead to a more fulfilling marriage.
tips & tricks for growth
be a better friend to your spouse
Friends are people we confide in, have fun with, and can be ourselves around. Does this sound like your spouse? If so, fantastic! It’s great to be best friends with the person you share your life with. If not, never fear; you can be a better friend to your spouse. Let’s be real for a minute. Life and kids can make friendships challenging to maintain, especially with those in our own house.
Here are a few ways you can enhance your friendship:
💯 Build playfulness into your daily routine.
💯 Explore each other’s interests.
💯 Have a regular date night. (And don’t talk about the kids.)
💯 Show your spouse they are your priority.
💯 Make time to talk and listen.
Take your spouse by the hand, tell them you love them, and you want to be their best friend.
constant worrying doesn’t have to affect your relationships
By Mitchell Qualls
I hit the road every Saturday morning. Usually, I’m gone for an hour or two. Saturday is my long run day. The time commitment of training for a half marathon is significant. As I walk out the door, my little ones are wide awake and active. They hit me with the questions… “Where are you going, Dad?” “When will you be back?” “Why will you be gone for so long?” “Can you stay with us?”
Up to a few months ago, I felt guilty for leaving them. I felt like I was being selfish. I questioned if I was neglecting my wife and kids to do something I wanted to do, which took so much time and energy. This was me overthinking, being flooded with negative self-talk. They didn’t tell me I was being selfish. They were my biggest cheerleaders. But my overthinking was affecting reality.
Have you been there? Are you an overthinker, too?
We can all be subject to overthinking as a spouse, a parent, a boss, an employee, or a friend. In any scenario, overthinking can be detrimental to furthering our relationships.
let’s get REALatable
It’s time to take things a step further & get a little intimate with a Q&A. What do you say?😉 Learn a little bit about the faces behind all of this relationship gold. This week we’re chatting with James Woods, husband to Marquita, dad of 6, and the Community Outreach Specialist here at First Things First. Let’s get REALatable💛 & learn a little bit about him:
Q: What’s your top pet peeve?
A: 👏 I’m very big on respect & manners, because that’s the way I was raised. It’s respectful to say, yes sir, no m’am, and to always give elders their titles as well. Nothing against anyone else who doesn’t practice good manners, but they’re very important to me!
Q: What’s the best part of your job?
A: 💛 This job is something I only dreamed of at previous jobs… Helping people I can relate to is everything! My favorite part is getting to interact with people and go into my community and make a difference giving people hope and letting the world know to never give up on your dreams.
Q: What animal represents your personality?
A: 🦎 I feel like I’m a chameleon. I can typically adapt to any situation or surroundings, I like to blend in. Chameleons are great at adapting & changing for the better. (Don’t h8 me if that silly karma chameleon song gets stuck in your head all day! Oops.)
*Based on a survey from Feldhahn, S. (2012, April 2). Surprising Secret: National Survey of Couples. Source.
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