March 25, 2022
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✨ Set yourself up for success by preparing yourself for #Marriedlife.
🚫 If your fiancé shuts down at the 1st sign of conflict, here’s how you can manage the tension.
⛓️ Move forward & break the porn addiction with these resources.
🏠 What’s the point of getting married if you’re already living together?
💍 These newlywed tips can help you build a strong foundation.
tips & tricks for growth
find your compassionate side
Compassion is where empathy meets action. It’s the difference between caring and showing care. You want your future spouse to know you can feel their pain, and you’re willing to do something about it. And studies show that you’re better off for showing compassion whether your fiancé acknowledges it or not.
Do you want to be more compassionate toward your future spouse? Sure you do! We’ve got you covered with some tips to help:
- Put your energy into understanding. Compassion starts with listening for understanding. Listen, not for how you can fix it or be right, but to understand your fiancé’s thoughts, emotions, and desires.
- Step outside of yourself. Things affect people differently. You may not react to disappointment, pain, or betrayal the way your partner would.
- Never forget: your spouse is human, too. We all have our imperfections. Treating a partner as though they shouldn’t make mistakes will block compassion.
finding common interests with your fiancé
There are two kinds of partners in the world. (Ugh. I can’t stand statements like this.)
- Those who think it’s not important to share some common interests with their future spouse.
- Those who think not having common interests is the end of the world. (Or marriage.)
They’re both wrong. Developing some common interests reinforces that you are a team and keeps you connected. It builds one of the most overlooked areas in marriage—friendship. (Newlyweds: “We’re soooo in love!” 10 Years Later And Beyond: “We’re best friends.”)
For those two kinds of partners (And everyone in between) Here’s how you find those common interests…
Each of you get out a piece of paper and thoroughly answer these three questions:
🌟 When you were a kid, what were you interested in?
🌟 What were you interested in when you were in high school?
🌟 What are you interested in lately?
Now compare your answers. One of you was interested in exploring as a kid. One of you was interested in camping out. Reconnect with those childhood interests as you connect with each other on a camping adventure. Be curious. Keep comparing lists. Make connections. Find the overlap.
what we’re lovin’
This week’s picks come from Kris Nash, wife to her husband of 25 years, Greg, #GirlMom of 3, and the Editor here at First Things First. Take a peek at her recommendations for this week because they are just THAT GOOD. Check ’em out 👀
🛍️ I love a good yard sale, but I’ve recently discovered “Buy Nothing” groups on Facebook and I think I’m in love. If you can find a local group, it’s a convenient and practical way to give away stuff that someone else might want or need, or to get something you’d like to have without any money changing hands. (Borrowing is sometimes an option, too!) What a great tool for helping each other!
🏡 I’m always looking for ways to make our home cozier and more enjoyable. Myquillyn Smith calls herself The Nester, and she focuses on the fact that things don’t have to be perfect to be beautiful. Check out her tips as you and your love create your very own space together!
🏥 Inevitably, you and your fiancé are gonna have some aches and pains to deal with. Wouldn’t it be great to have a physical therapist on hand to help you care for your body? That’s where Dr. Jen Fraboni comes in. Check out @docjenfit for a few ways to not only relieve pain, but to proactively take care of yourselves. (This obviously doesn’t replace medical care!)
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