June 10, 2022
top trending topics
🚸 Feeling like the default parent? Here’s how you can talk to your spouse about it.
💟 Cultivate emotional intimacy in your marriage.
🔕 It’s possible to stop feeling resentment.
⛔ If you have a toxic spouse, here’s how to navigate it.
💛 Your spouse can develop empathy. Here’s how to help.
tips & tricks for growth
when your marriage needs help…
Truth be told, it would be unusual to be married for any length of time and not have troubled times. It’s the reality of two people coming together, trying to do life together. It’s often complicated. Unexpected challenges can throw you for a loop. The good news? Although perfectly good marriages get derailed, the right help can often get the marriage back on track and moving on down the rails.
Here are 4 things you can do if you find yourself in a marriage that feels like it is in trouble:
💛 Surround yourself with people who are in healthy marriages.
💛 Counseling is for sure an option.
💛 Online coaching and experiences.
💛 There are many resources (including some outstanding books) you might find helpful.
keep your marriage strong this summer
The school year is crazy busy, but at least it’s consistent. Summer schedules are a little more challenging. Are any other parents feeling the crunch?
Summertime can add more stress to your marriage as well. Focusing on our relationship can get lost in the frenzy if we aren’t careful. But it doesn’t have to be that way. You can keep your marriage strong over the summer, too.
Here are a few ways to get you started:
😎 Make time for intimacy.
Before you put the calendars away, go ahead and schedule some time to get intimate. Wait a minute! Isn’t sex supposed to be spontaneous? Sure, but if you have little kids, you know the reality.
😎 Share a hobby or activity.
Identify at least one common hobby or activity and make time to do that together. You may need to break out the calendar and schedule it depending on the activity. But there may be hobbies you can do at home while the kids play. This doesn’t have to be a family activity, but it can be if you both agree that you’ll enjoy it just as much.
😎 Daily check-ins.
As you’re going in different directions, getting the kids places, and working, it can be easy to spend less time talking as a couple. Carve out some time each day to check in with each other. Maybe it’s over coffee in the morning. Perhaps it’s 30 minutes outside together at the end of each workday.
what we’re lovin’
This week’s picks come from Caroline Henry, wife to her husband of 3 years, Will, new momma to a little girl, and the Content Strategist here at First Things First. Take a peek at her recommendations for this week because they are just THAT GOOD. Check ’em out 👀:
📲 The Maple App can be a great resource for keeping up with household tasks! It’s an easy list-maker designed for busy couples to share tasks better – and strengthen your relationship along the way.
💬 Text your spouse right now and ask, “If you were a crayon, what color would you be?” Then continue the conversation with this list of questions tonight!
⏲️ Phones can be a huge barrier when it comes to connecting well with your spouse. If you’re up for the challenge, decide on a “phone bedtime” together! Both phones get put away at this time, then be sure to turn your focus to your spouse!
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