The past year was crazy. Finances. Family. Working from home. Homeschooling. Navigating a pandemic. Stress. Anxiety. Depression. The present is hard. The future is uncertain. What happened to our family? What will happen next?
Rarely are our minds engaged in what is going on right now.
Our attention is so focused on what happened yesterday or what will happen tomorrow—we miss the right now. Sometimes we get jarred out of the present by our schedules, cellphones, and to-do lists. We often fail to stop and savor what we are doing with the people we are doing it with.
We aren’t “in” the moment if we’re not being mindful in our family. As a family, you might be together, but you don’t connect.
How do you avoid mindlessly running from one thing to the next—both physically and especially mentally? How do you keep the past and the future from creating stress and anxiety in your family’s present? Stay connected to each other? How do you promote the mental skills needed to keep sharp and “in” the moment with your family?How do you help your family avoid these stress and anxiety pitfalls and better appreciate the time you have with each other?
Mindfulness is the ability to be fully present, aware of where you are and what you’re doing. The benefit is a more focused life with less bad stress and an increased ability to enjoy and connect with your family at a given moment.
Sounds simple, right? Well, it is, and it isn’t. It takes practice. If you’re like most people out there, you’ve trained yourself to put your mind in other places besides the present. And that, of course, affects your family.
Fortunately, practicing mindfulness in your family isn’t rocket science. There are several practices a family can do together to improve mindfulness. Here are just a few:
This can be practiced in your neighborhood, on a trail, or anywhere you can walk together. Coach your family to walk just a little slower than you usually walk. Use all of your senses to take in what’s around you. Smell the air. Listen to the sounds and look for sights that you might usually pass up. Feel the ground beneath your feet.
Help your kids to name what they’re experiencing: I see a bird’s nest in the tree! I can smell flowers blooming! I hear the crickets chirping! The ground feels rocky under my feet! You don’t have to do this for your entire walk for it to be good practice; make it a practice once a week as part of where you walk.
This is a great exercise, especially if you or your child is feeling anxious. The idea is to focus on your breathing. There are many mindful breathing techniques out there. I like the 4-7-8 technique. Sit comfortably with a straight spine and neck. As you inhale, count to 4 in your mind. Hold your breath for 7 seconds. Then exhale, counting to 8, making a whoosh sound.
Be aware of your breath, the feeling of air entering and exiting your lungs. If it’s difficult to hold your breath for that long, speed up the counts in your head, but keep the same 4-7-8 ratio of time.
The idea is to be aware of the present by savoring food with all of your senses. For instance, if you’re about to eat a potato chip, notice how it feels in your hands (brittle, crumbly), how it smells (salty, baked), how it looks (the shape, the crumbs, the ridges), how it sounds in your hand and as you eat it (crunchy), and obviously, how it tastes (salty, vinegary, cheesy).
This practice requires you to slow down considerably when eating (which isn’t a bad thing with kids). Practice it using all kinds of foods, such as hard candy, bread, or a spoonful of honey.
Life is too short to have our minds anywhere else other than on what is going on at the moment with the people we’re with. Practicing mindfulness can help your family experience less stress and tension and focus more on the joy of being together. It doesn’t take much to exercise mindfulness in your daily family life. Take one of these exercises and try them out with your family this week. You will enjoy being in the moment with the ones you love the most.
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Feeling overwhelmed with coming up with things to do with your kids stuck at home? Check out this ultimate list of ideas! Thanks to the Princess Awesome & Boy Wonder Community for the amazing suggestions!! (for actual quarantine, school closures, weekend social distancing, anytime!)
Have each kid pick a topic they’d like to learn about and spend 30 mins each day on that topic
Spend one day reading every single picture book we have in the house
Go through all the old mail laying around (ok, that one’s not for kids although they do enjoy helping tear stuff up)
Bake something every day
Have each kid write a letter and/or emails to a different friend or family member each day
Use all of our building toys on one giant structure
Wash our hands!!!!
Races of various kinds in the backyard (hopping on one foot, crabwalk, walking backwards, etc.)
Try stop motion animation with playdough
Facetime grandparents a lot
watch everything on Disney+
inventory the plants & wildlife (from bugs on up) in your yard.
learn the parts of plants/flowers & how they function (bonus if they learn the Latin names).
if you aren’t too squeamish & have a spare clear shoebox size tote or 5-10 gallon tank, catch some pillbugs (rolly pollies, sowbugs) & observe them (if you really do this, i can tell you how to set them up. i have about a thousand of them currently because it’s too cold here to thin the herd & they’ve been reproducing all winter. they’re pretty interesting).
write a short story & illustrate it.
learn how to do simple book binding.
make paper (from your old mail!)
have the kids help with yardwork in between playing games outside. They’re little, but they like getting dirty and “working” in the gardens.
GoNoodle! Great for guided movement, relaxation, etc.
Board games, card games
We have some extreme dot to dot books (1400 dots) that the kids love, especially the 5 year old!
Lots of reading, playing with the dog,
Working on learning to sew using stuff we have on hand.
Card making/scrapbooking projects (mostly for me but kids can do it too).
Getting the garden ready, we need to weed and work the ground. I might get seeds and we’ll set up to have our own starts this year.
Make tents and reading caves : ) flashlights, tidy snacks, books, and pillows!
Have a shadow show in the reading tent (we used blankets over chairs or a table)
Get binoculars and learn about the birds near your house, look them up on google and search for their birdcalls on YouTube
Learn how to make a stuffed animal
Play with cornstarch and water and cheap action figures
many educational websites are waving fees if your students school is closed
Collect a bunch of tape markers and cardboard boxes. That’ll keep them busy for a day or two.
Watch all the hand washing videos & vote on your favorite. Discuss why each good, helpful, funny. The Holderness parody one is hilarious, the Vietnam Tiktok one is great choreography, some have good songs etc.
Also pick your favorite song with a 20 second refrain or verse perfect for hand washing length of time.
Family puzzles. Ones that are 500-1000 pieces and a challenging but not frustrating picture
We homeschool (4 kids) and honestly, just have fun!!!!!
Team up and really clean and organize each kid’s space, making a donation box for each. Parents are included.
Have a board game day
kids can also make their own games! Board games, card games, you name it! My daughter spent a lot of time this winter creating soccer and football games played with cards for moves and pieces made out of legos
Write a story cooperatively. One person picks a character and the other picks a setting and then go gangbusters together.
the folding picture story one! We called it “eat poop you cat” one person draws a small picture across the top of a paper the next person writes a sentence that describes that picture and folds Over the paper top of the paper hot dog style to cover the picture. So the 3rd person only sees a sentence and they have to draw a picture. They fold over the sentence.
Any and all art is fun at home: beading, painting, drawing, play dough or kinetic sand, sewing, etc. when my daughter was young we could do art all day.
Massive board game tournament with all the (mostly forgotten) board games we own!
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My daughter (6) has enjoyed doing yoga at home. There are kid-friendly YouTube videos and printed cards with poses.
Zumba or Dance-along videos on YouTube
We home school exclusively and the best advice I have is check out Pinterest. There are tons of ideas for activities, games, etc.
Draw self portraits on blank faces
color coded different interesting places on a map.
I’ve had them draw maps of places and then make directions from one place to another to see if someone else could follow it.
We’ve done scavenger hunts, indoor treasure hunts where they follow clues through the house to a “treasure” at the end (could be candy, a movie, whatever), and a lot of charades.
My daughter wanted a doll house for her 18″ dolls. We saved cardboard boxes and got more from Dollar general and got to work. The closets and couch are cardboard as well.
There are a few easy “kitchen chemistry” type science experiments that are easy to do, like making slime, baking soda and vinegar reaction, etc.
we put food coloring under the baking soda in a mini muffin pan and used Pipette to drop vinegar in and then you can see the color!
Last summer we did an experiment to learn what each ingredient did for a cake (so we made one following the recipe, one without eggs, one without milk, etc.). We then compared and contrasted the different cakes … Then we ate a lot of weird cake.
Dig up all the activity books, presents, etc that never got played with, and use those!
There’s always time tested building a tent in the house with blankets and chairs. Great for just before nap time.
We are going to bust out our hiking gear and try new hiking paths. As long as you stay away from over populated areas you will naturally stay a safe distance from others and sick people generally don’t hike!
Do a study on planets, then have the kids create their own planets- how big is it, where in the universe is it located, atmosphere conditions, can it sustain life, how long is a day/year, name it, etc.
you could even spread the planets out around the house to show “approx.” distance from each other.
Design a new space craft, draw plans, then create out of legos or household items. Spend some time pretending you’re on different planets with different gravity, you could seriously spend a whole week on just fun space activities.
But that’s not limited to space- these ideas would work for animals, geography, body systems, historical events/time periods, etc. Beyond that, do some fun physics experiments like making a bridge out of straws, egg drop protectors, paper airplanes, etc.
PuppetMaster: an app where you can animate anything from a drawing to a stuffed animal.
Practice spinning poi – my daughter is just learning how to spin and it’s been fun practicing together.
Puzzle races: put several puzzles (20+ piece puzzles) in a paper bag and shake it up. Pour pieces out and give each person the puzzle box they are to put together. Go! (Cooperation tends to be a result as pieces are traded.)
Dig through cabinets and figure out recipes for that thing you got at the grocery store and thought “this is interesting surely it can be used for something!” And then make it!
Make ice cream
Make and play with Play dough
I let them “paint the fence” with washable paints outside
My mother used to let us put on swimsuits and get out our beach towels and have a pretend beach party on rainy or snowy days, complete with Beach Boys music.
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