🔵 You leave the house without saying goodbye to each other.
🔵 You send texts throughout the day that are only transactional — about work, the kids, finances or the household.
🔵 You subtly put your spouse down in conversations with friends.
🔵 You go to bed at different times, sometimes without saying goodnight.
🔵 You can’t remember the last time you laughed really hard together.
🔵 You rarely feel “in the mood” and turn down advances pretty often.
🔵 You are just going through the same ol’, same ol’ motions.
🔵 You know something’s missing but can’t quite pinpoint what it is…
Maybe you’re feeling lonely or abandoned because your spouse seems so distant and not interested in connecting in the ways you are needing.
Maybe you’re frustrated and feeling misunderstood because you’ve tried bringing up your feelings of disconnect but your spouse feels attacked, becomes defensive and then a simple conversation escalates into a huge fight.
Maybe you’re scared that nothing will help and you’ll either be stuck in a loveless marriage, drifting further apart by the day or your relationship that was supposed to last forever will end in divorce.
You long to reach for each other the way you used to when you were first together, but that invisible emotional barrier keeps you stuck in the shallows of your marriage. In order to take your emotional, physical and social connection to a deeper level, you need practical skills and simple strategies for handling all of the challenges that come with marriage. And I should know because I was there.
Besides being a Relationship Expert, I’ve been married to my wife Monica for 27 years and have 5 children. I have experienced the highs and lows and ups and downs of marriage and more importantly — what really works to improve your marriage.
Throughout my research and my own personal experience, I discovered 6 facets of marriage that, when focused on, could become a catalyst for change and a deeper connection in any marriage. I poured all my energy and knowledge into creating a 30-day email series that would guide other couples to focus on these 6 facets: Essentials, Identity, Clarity, Direction, Balance, and Connection.
Once the series was completed, I didn’t think it was fair to just stop there. My wife and I actually DID the series together. One email, every day, for a whole month. And let me tell you something… our marriage TRANSFORMED. I knew I had something LIFE-CHANGING that I HAD to share with as many couples as possible.
Just to be clear, my wife and I didn’t have some perfect little marriage before the Deeper series. It’s still not perfect and never will be, but my wife and I would both confidently say that Deeper was phenomenal for our marriage. We talked about things we had never talked about before, and even though I wrote Deeper, the challenging parts still challenged and ultimately transformed our marriage.
Instead, I want to walk alongside you on your marriage journey, providing concepts, tools, and practical insights that you can immediately apply to your marriage. Even if you focus just ONE of these 6 facets, you’ll start seeing a change in your marriage immediately. The more you put these into practice, the more you’ll…
✅ Turn your conflict into fuel for deeper understanding of one another.
✅ Reignite a physical passion that makes your marriage feel new and exciting again.
✅ Communicate so each person feels heard and understood.
✅ Cultivate a safe space to be transparent and vulnerable.
✅ Eliminate unhealthy, destructive patterns in your relationship.
✅ Find a deeper connection forming, each and every day.
✅ Have clarity about where your marriage is currently and where you want it to go.
✅ Identify common areas of contention and opportunities for growth.
✅ Discover the secret to balancing hope and reality in your marriage.
✅ Learn hacks for understanding yourself & your spouse on a deeper level.
✅ Have simple solutions to protect and propel your marriage.
✅ Develop effective communication skills that will strengthen your connection.
✅ Have a game plan for how to navigate glitches that trip up your marriage.
✅ Unlock proven strategies for using disagreements and conflict to strengthen your marriage.
✅ Transform your boredom in your marriage and your bedroom.
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Every day is filled with things you can do right then and there to take your marriage deeper.
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I’m a relationship expert and author of the Deeper Email Series. My passion for helping couples and families strengthen their connections led me to join First Things First in 2017. With two degrees under my belt and several years of relationship mentoring, I’ve found my niche in writing blogs, ebooks and creating content to help transform lives. I’m married to my beautiful wife, Monica and together we have 5 children: Shaffer, Søren, Davin, Given, and Jude. In my free time, I enjoy discovering stories through books, movies, and conversations.
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Chattanooga, TN 37403