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Did you know that 1.4 million married couples in the United States not only live together, but they work together, too?Robin and Michael McKenna ran the family business together for 10 years in Savannah, Georgia.“My husband was working in corporate America,” says Mrs. McKenna. “We realized that we could either move around with his job or move to Savannah and help his father run the family business.
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Perhaps you have seen the video It’s Not about the Nail that has millions of views on YouTube.As a couple sits on the couch, the female describes relentless pressure and pain in her head that won’t go away. While she vocalizes her frustration, the scene expands enough for the viewer to see a nail in her forehead.The male says to her, “You do have a nail in your head.”Her response? “It is not about the nail.”An argument ensues.
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When the kids leave the nest and are almost off the payroll, that second half of marriage is within sight. You finally have time to breathe. But suddenly you have questions…What in the heck will we do with the second half of our marriage?How will we handle the challenges of aging parents, crises with the children or unexpected medical issues?What about retirement, finances and the like?While some couples look forward to the years ahead, others feel trapped.
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Do you ever feel like you and your spouse are roommates instead of lovers? Does it feel like your marriage is in a constant state of chaos? Have you caught yourself wishing for the life you don’t have?If you answered yes to any of these questions, you aren’t alone.
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Can a simple date night really make that much difference in a marriage? That's a great question!You probably know about the benefits of family meals and the preventative factors associated with pulling off this feat. For example, your children are less likely to try drugs and alcohol, and they're more likely to do well in school.
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Every year on Super Bowl Sunday, both hard-working teams hope to carry the trophy home to their city. And they’ll do everything they can to win the game.As in any sport, there will be plays and penalties that the other team thinks are unfair or just plain wrong. From holding and pass interference to offsides or encroachment, the teams can argue all they want.
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“What if you don’t respect or appreciate your spouse?”That’s the question a woman asked social researcher Shaunti Feldhahn after she spoke at a conference on the topic of kindness.Feldhahn encouraged her to take a 30-day Kindness Challenge. The steps are: Say nothing negative about that person – either to them or about them.Each day, find one positive thing to praise or affirm about that person. Then tell them and tell someone else. Each day, do one small …
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In The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: 25 Years of Research, Dr. Judith Wallerstein contends that the major impact of divorce does not occur during childhood or adolescence. Instead, the effects of divorce on children are cumulative.
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Just weeks into their marriage, Sam and Ellen* were caught a bit off guard as their different perspectives about certain things became very real. While they had discussed many of the big potential areas of conflict – money, career, children and how they wanted to deal with their in-laws – the impact of the more “trivial” matters on their marriage surprised them.For example, things like socks on the floor, how to squeeze the toothpaste tube, how to do household chores, how to spend th…
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J.J. and Beverly Jerman were dating when they decided to venture into working together.“I was working as a nurse in a GI Lab at the time and developed an allergy to cleaning chemicals so I had to find a different job,” says Beverly. “J.J.
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You started out with such great intentions, but today your marriage is floundering. The emotional pain runs deep, and both of you struggle with a sense of bewilderment. How can your relationship be in such turmoil when it started out so strong?”I encounter many couples who find themselves in this exact place,” says Pam Johnson, a licensed clinical social worker.
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Believe it or not, many couples are just trying to make it through the holidays before filing for divorce. Nothing they have tried is working, so they assume divorce is the answer.Most people believe it takes two dedicated partners to salvage a troubled marriage. Michele Weiner-Davis, internationally-known relationship expert and author of the best-selling book Divorce Busting, disagrees.
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Vice President Pence has been the subject of many conversations lately regarding his rule about not dining alone with a woman other than his wife. People have varying opinions on the matter. Some think it is a good rule; others say it is archaic.Regardless of your opinion, plenty of research indicates that it's worthy of our attention.
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Don't let a screen distract you from your most important relationship.
Does media use really impact marital quality?This question has been swirling around in the minds of many for more than a decade. According to attorneys, the use of social media impacts divorce cases now more than ever before. Counselors also say it is increasingly common for couples to argue about media use in a marriage counseling session.You only have to look around to see how media use impacts marriages.
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Popular shows like Married by America or The Bachelor might lead you to believe that marriage, which has been declining for 30 years, is making a comeback. But look closely at these shows: their focus is more on romantic relationships and lavish weddings.Is marriage only about fulfilling our emotional needs, or is it something more?According to Dr. David Popenoe, co-director of Rutgers’ National Marriage Project, marriage means much more than that.“What people seem to have forgotten is one very …
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Have you “friended” an old flame on Facebook without telling your spouse?Once you marry, is it OK to have close friends of the opposite sex?If asked to choose between going out with your friends or staying home with your spouse, which would you prefer?Do you discuss details about your marriage relationship with your parents?How you answer these questions can have a dramatic impact on your current or future marriage relationship.Most people are excited about spending the rest of their…
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Research on what makes marriage work indicates that happy and healthy couples demonstrate a ratio of 5:1 positive to negative behaviors in their relationship.This means there are five times as many positive interactions between happy couples (i.e. listening, validating the other person, using soft words, expressing appreciation, affirmation, physical affection, compliments, etc.) as there are negative (i.e. raising one’s voice, stating a complaint, or expressing one’s anger).Tips for improving t…
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