How Technology Use Impacts Faithfulness
In July 2019, the 2019 State of our Unions: iFidelity: Interactive Technology and Relationship Faithfulness report revealed some interesting findings. These findings were about marital health and relationship attitudes/behaviors, both online and in real life, in America. The study dives deep into the impact of technology on faithfulness.
According to the report, the internet has impacted our personal and professional lives. It shows our definitions of romantic and sexual loyalty and commitment are changing. While most Americans still clearly oppose sexual unfaithfulness in marriage, younger adults are significantly more likely to engage in internet infidelity than older generations.
Researchers believe the weakening of marital and relationship boundaries matters. The data in this report shows a generational divide in both behaviors and attitudes, with younger generations having weaker boundaries. Younger Americans are more likely to be unfaithful online. It’s clear that relationship outcomes are markedly worse when iFidelity becomes i-Infidelity.
The report offers three key findings across all age groups.
First, a majority of Americans in all generations express support for sexual fidelity in their relationships. They also report they are sexually faithful in real life. However, today’s young adults are more likely to cross online boundaries related to sex and romance.
Additionally, many online behaviors are rated by most Americans (70% or more) as “unfaithful” or “cheating.” This would include having a secret emotional relationship or sexting with someone other than a partner/spouse without the partner’s/spouse’s knowledge and consent.
The third finding can have a major impact on relationships if couples were to set and enforce online boundaries. Married and cohabiting couples who maintain strong online boundaries are more likely to be happy in their relationships. Currently married or cohabiting couples who blur those boundaries are significantly less happy. They are also less committed and more likely to break up. On the other hand, couples who take a more careful stance online are happier, more committed and less likely to separate.
Here are some of the numbers:
- 18% of millennial participants engaged in sexual talk online with someone besides their partner; only 3% of Greatest/Silent Generation participants (ages 75 and older), 6% of baby boomers and 16% of Gen Xers did so.
- Only 18% of millennials deemed electronic behaviors that blur romantic and sexual lines with others inappropriate, compared to 26% of baby boomers.
- Married and cohabiting people who went without following a former girlfriend/boyfriend online had a 62% likelihood of reporting that they considered themselves “very happy” in their relationship, while 46% of those who followed an old flame reported being very happy.
- Married and cohabiting Americans who break three or more romantic or sexual boundaries online are 26 percentage points less likely to deem themselves “very happy” in their real life relationship, compared to those who push none of those boundaries.
The General Social Survey, a key source for the report, regularly gauges American attitudes. It has asked the same questions regarding marital fidelity from 1998 to 2018.
For example, “What about a married person having sexual relations with someone other than his or her husband or wife, is it …?” The percentage of people responding, “Always wrong” dropped 8 points over a 20-year span to 75%. This indicates an increase in more permissive attitudes. But statistical tests confirm that an attitudinal shift of 8 percentage points in the last 10 years is not likely due to chance.
According to this report, young adults who grew up in the age of the internet prove least committed to iFidelity. It also shows that crossing emotional and sexual boundaries results in lower quality relationships. iFidelity, then, suggests that our online conduct is linked to the health of our real life relationships. Is your technology use impacting your faithfulness?
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