Grief and the Holidays

Grief and the Holidays

Grief and the Holidays

In June of 2010, Cathy Brown unexpectedly lost her mother. While she was in the midst of grieving and anticipating the holidays without her mom, Brown’s son passed away.

“Up to this point in my life, I had never lost anybody close to me,” says Brown. “When I lost my mom and son within six months of each other, it ramped things up to a whole different experience.”

As a result, Brown has a real heart for people who are grieving, especially during the holidays.

“Unless you have really experienced grief, you don’t realize how much it physically drains you,” Brown says. “I encourage people to be patient with themselves and to be very intentional about exercising and getting enough rest. People are better able to handle the emotional roller coaster of grief when agemaking healthy choices.”

In navigating her own journey through the grieving process, Brown has led a Griefshare group at Signal Mountain Presbyterian. “People are often surprised at how long the grieving process takes,” she says. “Even if this isn’t the first Christmas without their loved one, people often describe the grief as being more intense than they anticipated.”

If you’re preparing for the holidays after losing a loved one, Brown shares her own words of wisdom and experience to help you in the process:

  • Keep your expectations of yourself realistic – It’s okay to cry. People don’t expect you to have it all together.
  • Don’t be afraid to feel the pain – Some people try to avoid feeling the pain by keeping super-busy, over eating or drinking. Allowing yourself to walk through the pain is part of the healing process.
  • Make a plan – Give yourself permission to say “no” to some things. You don’t have to participate in every single thing you get invited to attend, nor must you do things in the same way you have always done them. Brown shares that some people find real comfort in keeping things exactly the same while others find it too difficult.
  • Surround yourself with people who are loving and encouraging – This makes it easier to be real. Try not to take offense at people’s gestures to show they care.
  • Give yourself permission to experience joy - There will be moments of laughter and joy. Some people feel guilty about this, but experiencing joy is not dishonoring to their loved one. Consider doing something in honor of your loved one that will bring you joy.
  • Faith plays a big part in healing - Brown described knowing that people were praying for her as huge. Being able to pray and rely on God’s Word helped her immensely. She had never felt the presence of God in such an amazing way.
  • Everybody handles grief differently – Just because another person doesn’t grieve in exactly the same way you do does not mean he/she is not grieving. This could be a source of tension in relationships.

“My hope is that those who are grieving will take these suggestions to heart,” Brown said. “I also would encourage people to go to and sign up for 365 days of inspirational emails. In addition to trying to do all of the things listed above, the daily emails were uplifting and encouraging, especially on the toughest days.”

4 comments (Add your own)

1 Stephak - Mon, June 3, 2019 @ 5:13 PM

Diabete Viagra cialis 5 mg best price usa Cialis 10 Mg Precio Oficial Cialis Diario Precio Productos Con Finasteride Comprar Propecia
2 Rebarrill - Thu, June 6, 2019 @ 4:03 AM

Precose Online Pharmacy With Echeck For Viagara Dapoxetine Purchase cialis tablets for sale Cialis Sonnolenza Viagra Pressione Arteriosa Strep Throat Keflex
3 Stephak - Tue, June 11, 2019 @ 7:02 PM

Buy Synthroid 200 Mcg No Rx Achat Viagra Ligne France buy viagra Buy Generic Doxycycline Online
4 LesMeette - Tue, June 11, 2019 @ 9:11 PM

Cialis Sin Receta 2009 Motilium Paypal Efectos De La Viagra En Jovenes cialis from canada Natural Viagra Alternative Blood Flow

Add a New Comment


Comment Guidelines: No HTML is allowed. Off-topic or inappropriate comments will be edited or deleted.