I know right now it’s tough. Our routine, our schedules, our lives are different… changed by the COVID-19 quarantine. Some days are easy and some days are hard. Some days I struggle to like you… and some days you do something so unexpected and sweet that my heart swells with love and I realize just how lucky I am to have you in my life. Sometimes we are at each other’s throats because all the stress and tension is so high, and sometimes we are laughing until our stomachs hurt, watching Netflix and cuddling on the couch.
It’s a confusing time and our marriage is on an emotional rollercoaster. Every day a new story emerges and we’re dropping, our stomachs rising to our throats, fear engulfing us as we close our eyes and plunge down deeper. We could let this overtake us. Let it cause us to lash out at each other. Put up walls and social distance in the same room. But instead, why don’t we open our eyes and take a breath?
Why don’t we talk about the fear, to eliminate its power? We could be honest about the struggles of each passing day. We could look each other in the eyes and listen intently to every word, with focused empathy, compassion and love. Why don’t we encourage one another to use this time for growth? To give ourselves grace and permission to create a new normal? Learn about each other and ourselves, our true characters and how we respond to challenges.
Let’s lean toward each other, instead of away. Let’s connect like we never have before. Let’s always say good morning and good night with a kiss. Learn to let go of the little things that bug us and manage those tensions with patience. Let’s reminisce about the past and dream about the future. The anniversary trip we will take in a few years. Let’s go on date night-ins and be goofy together. Laugh at ourselves and find the bright side when all the things go wrong.
We can’t forget that we’re on the same team. We can’t let the panic, fear and tension pull us apart. We have to be intentional about seeing each other, really, truly, SEEING each other and loving each other the very best we can, each and every day. And I know we can do it. We WILL do it. Our marriage will grow even stronger. We’ve had so many twists and turns already, there’s no telling what will happen next. But I do know this. I will stay on this ride… Feel every thrill and every drop, as long as you’re by my side.
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