Businesses are opening. Restaurants, gyms, retail, places of worship—all opening or communicating plans to open. You can feel the shift in the air. Are you ready for life after quarantine?
Family and friends are politely gauging my interest in social gatherings.
Updates from little league coaches are hitting my notifications.
People are having discussions about going back to the office.
Lots of people are tentatively planning birthday parties.
The kid’s scout troop is considering one last event.
My small group is toying with the idea of moving from virtual meetings to in-person.
It’s not official yet, but just realizing “life” is looking to restart is making my head spin.
This quarantine has some advantages. We’re not eating out so much since we’re not going from work to whatever activity is on the schedule next. My wife and I are not having to “divide and conquer” to get everyone to their respective destinations. Instead of saying, “Everybody out of the car, get a snack, brush your teeth, put on your pajamas and go to bed!” after we get home from another late night engagement, our evening and bedtime routines are more peaceful. I actually know my kids better now, and I’ve taken the time to connect more deeply with my wife.
I am genuinely afraid of losing all that positive momentum we’ve gained. I’m afraid that we’ll become too busy again. Is not entering the rat race an option? Why do we do it year after year? Do we have to?
We do this for noble reasons:
- Wanting to make significant contributions to our community.
- Wanting our children to be well-rounded and wanting to expose them to individuals who were set up to succeed in anything they chose.
- Sitting at home is not as fun or engaging as going to event after event.
- It seems to be the right thing to do for ourselves, our marriage and our kids.
But, I like the nighttime pillow talk with my wife that I’m not too tired to have anymore, the spontaneous fun with my kids, and the extended conversations with my mom who lives by herself. I’ve had more meaningful conversations with some of my closest friends than I’ve had in years. I’m afraid of losing all that.
As you prepare for your world to open back up, intentionally reflect on how the quarantine affected your life. Instead of busting out of your home as soon as you can, consider any lessons you’ve learned about yourself, your spouse, and your family. What did you learn during quarantine? Bring the growth you’ve experienced into your post-quarantined life. As afraid as we may be of becoming too busy again, we should be more afraid of wasting this moment in time.
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