Stories abound about the winter 2014 Olympic athletes and what it took for them to participate in the games. Katie Summerhayes, Sage Kotsenburg, Bode Miller and others trained for thousands of hours. Why? They wanted to become the best in their sport - whether they actually won a medal or not.
It's unlikely that anyone said, “You’re a natural, just get out there and make it happen,” or “You don’t need any training, just show up on race day.” When these athletes became serious about their sport, they found coaches to help them reach their fullest potential. Moreover, they followed through and put in their time.
Take Bode Miller, for instance. As one of the most successful Alpine skiers in American history, Miller experienced extreme disappointment. He actually came in 8th in a race he had hoped would signal his return after knee surgery. Yet, even after such a disappointing run, he returned to the slopes for another event's training run.
Why are so many people willing to put in blood, sweat and tears to succeed athletically, but they often won’t put even half the effort into their marriage? Imagine what marriages nationwide could be if we put in a fraction of these athletes' training time!
Fortunately, many successful athletic practices also apply to your marriage.
Learn about the sport. Educate yourself about building a healthy marriage and finding a “keeper.” Don’t just assume you know. Unprepared athletes receive serious, but avoidable injuries. It's the same in marriage.
Train, and be hungry to learn new insights and strategies. Just as athletes constantly seek to improve, continually learning new insights and strategies in marriage helps individuals and couples change and grow over time.
Give it 100 percent. Athletes eat, sleep and breathe their sport. They devote themselves to it, often travel great distances and make significant sacrifice to train with the best. Your marriage can really benefit from a 100% commitment.
Practice determination. Bode Miller was determined to ski again even after surgery and a successful run as an athlete. He and many other athletes have a “do whatever it takes” mentality. Most marriages would benefit from adopting this attitude.
Don’t give up. Athletes can easily reflect on victories and disappointments. Couples rarely do this, it can be motivational. Anybody in a worthwhile relationship will say that the mountaintops are awesome. Additionally, they learned the most about their marriage in the valleys.
As you know, becoming the best at anything doesn't happen overnight. Each Olympian invests their time, determination and perseverance to achieve their life's goal. Your marriage is also the commitment of a lifetime. Why stop short of the victory?