What if we refuse to be victims of a virus? Hear me out. What if our COVID-19 Global Pandemic Battle Cry is simply these three A’s: Assess, Adapt and Achieve. What if we strive to keep them at the forefront of our thinking? Let it be our mantra. Make it our self-talk, so we don’t just settle for just making it through? What would our lives become?
Let’s rehearse these three A’s so that we respond to all of this insanity and not just react. It will help us keep our cool and stay in control. We can refuse to let these circumstances victimize us, our marriages, our families, and friendships. Assess, Adapt, Achieve. Let’s Triple-A our way through so we can thrive during the COVID-19 outbreak and all this stuff, because don’t you want to be even better on the other side?
This means that I am constantly trying to feed my brain accurate, honest, up-to-the-minute information about what is going on inside and outside of me. I try to honestly inventory my emotions and psyche. How am I doing—really doing? How is my physical health? And, how am I doing as an employee, neighbor, friend, husband, and father?
How is my family doing? Do I even know? Have our routines set us up for maximum success during this strange new time? Are their needs being met—physical, emotional, and relational? Am I taking proper care of myself so I can properly take care of them?
What about my marriage? Are we just coexisting under the same roof? Are these circumstances driving us toward each other or apart? Will we be able to look back and say, “Look how it strengthened our marriage, but yeah, it was crazy!” or are we just going crazy? Am I open and available emotionally? Am I tuned in to her needs? Would my spouse share my assessment?
And how about my friends and neighbors? The people within my sphere of influence? Am I checking in on them? Do I recognize who is vulnerable right now? It’s not all about me!
Oh, that virus? Almost forgot. Not. My. Job. I check in on it every few days and I let the CDC do their thing. I do get their expert assessment and make sure I’m doing what they recommend. Otherwise, I’m off the news and super-careful on social media. I’m not going to be irresponsible, but my day isn’t gonna revolve around a microbe.
Assess. Gauge. Evaluate. What’s working for me, my marriage, and my family? What isn’t working? Where are the pressure points in my life? How are my kids’ gauges reading? When is the last time I checked? Where do I need to put my focus, attention, and energy? This isn’t the time to be passive or run on assumptions. Too much at stake!
This is the hard part. I don’t know you. I don’t know your family situation. And, I don’t know your work or financial situation. But here’s what I do know. I do know that after an honest, accurate assessment, you will have to make changes. You will have to be flexible and adapt.
Some long-standing traditions will have to give way to new traditions. You may need to raise or lower some expectations and get real. You may have to think outside the box and get creative. And you may even have to recalibrate some priorities.
It might be a tiny adjustment like using FaceTime instead of just texting someone. You might find an area that needs a total overhaul. Get to it. Everything is changing, but are you adapting? There is a huge difference. Then go back to assess. Then keep adapting. Stay a step ahead of the enemy.
So much of this is mental. It’s mindset. Are these hammers beating you down, beating your marriage down, beating your family down or are the hammers beating you into shape? Are these all new obstacles or all new opportunities to help you thrive during the COVID-19 outbreak?
We are all getting squeezed—maybe like never before—and what is on the inside is going to come out. Are we finding out that we are all wishbone and no backbone? Time to rise to the moment. We can wish things were different or we can work to make them different, work to be different. Use that backbone and lean into these challenges.
This isn’t the “new normal.” Reject that mindset. Because we aren’t settling and we aren’t just surviving. We need to win. We’re not in a holding pattern. We aren’t simply waiting for this to blow over.
★We are working to not waste this situation so we can thrive during the COVID-19 outbreak.★
We aren’t hoping. Instead, we are helping. We want nothing less than to be stronger people in stronger marriages with stronger families. Did you get that? We will settle for nothing less than to be stronger people in stronger marriages with stronger families. We don’t want to just make it to the other side, we want to get there better and stronger than we were before all this. Remember the Triple-A’s.
Yeah, things are pretty dark. But midnight is when the day begins.