More than two million marriages take place annually in America.
“Almost all couples anticipate ‘living happily ever after,’” according to Dr. Gary Chapman in his book, Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married. “No one gets married hoping to be miserable or to make their spouse miserable, yet the highest percentage of divorce occurs within the first seven years of marriage.”
When you consider the fact that most people spend more time planning and training for their vocation than they do for their wedding, is it any surprise that the divorce rate is so high?
“What is ironic is that we recognize the need for education in all other pursuits of life and fail to recognize that need when it comes to marriage,” Chapman says. “It should not be surprising that they are more successful in their vocational pursuits than they are in reaching the goal of marital happiness.”
Chapman’s book provides a blueprint for people interested in marriage as well as for those who are engaged and preparing for marriage.
“As I look back over the early years of my marriage, I wish someone had told me what I am about to tell you,” Chapman says.
The book addresses 12 areas of potential stress for couples, including money, in-laws and personality. Here are a few of the 12.
I wish I had known that…
When not discussed beforehand, these issues (and more) can create a marriage filled with conflict, misunderstandings and frustration. Putting forth the time and effort to learn these things ahead of time could save you a lot of heartache and pain in the long run.