The top 10 resolutions for each new year are often to: lose weight, get organized, spend less/save more, enjoy life to the fullest, stay fit and healthy, learn something exciting, quit smoking, help others in their dreams, fall in love, and spend more time with family.
Most would agree these are great goals, but research indicates if you don’t have accountability these goals will be out the window in a month. What would happen if you and your spouse made some resolutions for your marriage that were fun and actually worked to build up your relationship? Here are some examples:
- Don’t come in and want to “talk” during the Super Bowl unless you want to pick a fight. Instead, schedule time for uninterrupted conversation on a regular basis. Studies show that just five minutes a day can make a huge difference in your relationship.
- If you are interested in knowing what is going on in his head, don’t ask your man to share his feelings. Simply ask, “What do you think?” Chances are good you will actually end up knowing how he feels.
- Eat dinner together. Seriously, taking time away from the television and other technology to eat together enhances communication and connectedness which are crucial to a healthy marriage. If you have children, feed them early and plan a late dinner for the two of you.
- Help your spouse get organized, but remember it’s okay to be spontaneous.
- Help your spouse be spontaneous, but remember it’s okay to plan. The key to both of these goals is clearly balance. Too much planning or spontaneity can make for a miserable marriage.
- If your goal is good health, pay attention to what you eat, get enough rest and exercise regularly. Moderation in eating is important. Take walks together holding hands. Studies show that holding your mate’s hand can decrease your blood pressure. Who knows, this exercise could lead to more “fun exercise.”
- Set goals together no matter what. Decide on one thing that you and your spouse want to accomplish together this year and make plans to see it happen. Doing things as a team throughout the years will help prepare you for becoming empty-nesters.
- Find ways to encourage your spouse. The truth is, most people know deep down what their weaknesses are, but often have trouble knowing and acknowledging their strengths.
- Figure out how to live within your means. At the end of life, relationships trump material things.
- Don’t forget, if you want to have a little fun you can still embarrass your teenagers by just showing up.
- Compete with your spouse by learning to out-serve each other. Selfishness comes naturally; selflessness takes intentional effort.
If you do the above, chances are good that you will lose weight, get organized, spend less/save more, enjoy life to the fullest, get healthy, learn something exciting, quit smoking, help others fulfill dreams, fall more in love with your spouse, and spend more time with family. Who knew?