It isn’t unusual for people to make time to attend training to increase their job productivity, improve their golf swing or even enhance their cooking or gardening skills, but when was the last time you took time away to work on your marriage relationship?
Imagine getting away for a week with your spouse and a few other couples with no worries about what time it is or who needs to be at what practice. No kids yelling, “Mommy” or bosses calling. No cell phones, computers, or television and no clue about the news of the day. In fact, you really have no need to know what day it is or what your next meal will be. The focus of the week is just to enjoy each other’s company and to spend time with your mate.
If you feel totally disconnected from your spouse, this could sound like torture or a total impossibility. Additionally, the thought of leaving technology behind can send chills up the spine. For others, this seems like something that would only happen in their dreams.
A group of couples took some friends up on the challenge of getting away for a week – on a sailboat. They were a bit apprehensive about how things would go but by day two, they loved not having a clue about what time it was, and it really didn’t matter.
At one point the couples were chatting after dinner. It was dark and people were yawning so everybody decided it must be very late. When they discovered it was only 8:30, everybody got a good laugh. A thoughtful discussion followed about how hard we live life and yet often forget to nurture the things that matter most to us because we are just too busy, stressed, selfish or just plain worn out.
Throughout the week people took naps, read books, chatted about their children and other things that were just silly. They also soaked in the sun, played in the water, ate together and spent time learning from one another.
Here are a few lessons they learned while on the boat:
At the end of the week no one was disappointed in their adventure. In fact, spouses felt closer to each other and re-energized.
Consider ways you can reconnect with your spouse and be intentional about making it happen.