Marriage

There is Hope for Your Marriage

Margery D. Rosen, author of Seven Secrets of a Happy Marriage, a book based on her Ladies’ Home Journal column, Can this Marriage be Saved?, interviewed hundreds of couples whose marriages were in distress and appeared hopeless.

“The book is a compilation of columns over the years as well as information from social scientists to help couples have hope,” Rosen said. “All of the stories are true. I actually interviewed husbands, wives and their therapists. Interestingly, the main topics for couples in the 1950s and 60s are the same struggles couples deal with today. While the specifics of the story change from month to month, the circumstances that can shake the foundation of a marriage remain the same.”

Rosen found something very interesting when she posed the question, “Why do some marriages burn out and others burn on?”

“The phrase ‘intentional commitment’ comes up often, the conscious desire and choice to make a marriage last,” Rosen said. “While commitment and acceptance don’t get a lot of press and they’re not the stuff of sound bites on the network news, it is clear that marriages are stronger when couples focus on what they like and appreciate about each other, rather than what irks them. Happy couples argue, get depressed, lose jobs, battle over disciplining the kids – but their sense of we-ness over me-ness allows them to encourage each other during the good times and empathize during the bad.”

When the research was all said and done, Rosen found that the issues couples struggle with boil down to these seven topics: trust, communication, fighting fair, power struggles, money, sex and balancing parenthood. Rosen believes these topics hold the secrets to a lasting marriage.

Below is a taste of the wisdom imparted from couples who made their marriage work under very difficult circumstances.

“It takes courage to face marital problems head on,” Rosen said. “Can this Marriage Be Saved? proves that both partners can transform their actions and reactions. That openness and ability to change brings them a giant step closer to where they both want to be.”

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