Tips for a Highly-Happy Marriage

Do you ever feel like you and your spouse are roommates instead of lovers?  Does it feel like your marriage is in a constant state of chaos?  Have you caught yourself wishing for the life you don’t have?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you aren’t alone.  Truth be told, there are many chaotic marriages out there where both spouses are feeling disconnected and lonely.

When people feel disconnected in their marriage, anxiety, distrust, uncertainty and suspicion often creep in.  Couples stop believing they are on the same team and start looking out for themselves.  This leads to feeling the need to have the last word, always be right and a “my way or the highway” attitude which certainly doesn’t create an environment where a relationship can thrive and grow.

The first step toward changing the direction of your relationship is to identify what is creating the chaos or disconnectedness.  Usual and customary suspects include: children, career, community commitments, busyness and phubbing (otherwise known as snubbing your mate in favor of your smart phone).

Clearly, you can’t ship the children off, jobs matter and it’s unrealistic to think that technology won’t be part of your relationship. However, if you are resolved that something needs to change, it might help you to know what research reveals about how happily married couples keep their marriages out of the ditch.

In her book, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, Harvard-educated researcher Shaunti Feldhahn uncovered 12 things highly-happy couples do.  Here are a few of them that you can apply to your own relationship:

If you are tired of the chaos and feelings of disconnectedness in your marriage, try incorporating some of these habits into your marriage.  Although creating an environment for your marriage to grow and thrive may not happen overnight, these habits could be just what your relationship needs.



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