This is the first in a series on pornography and its impact on marriages, families and communities.
Numerous studies indicate that porn is a very significant problem in U.S. homes. The Justice Department estimates that nine out of 10 children between 8 and 16 years old have been exposed to porn online.
At an American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers meeting, two-thirds of the attendees said excessive interest in online pornography contributed to more than half their divorce caseload. A leading Fortune 500 company study found 62 percent of male computer time was spent on cybersex sites.
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“Rarely does someone’s participation remain at just looking at porn,” says Dr. Mark Laaser, author of The Pornography Trap. “They begin with looking at porn, then they move to self-stimulation and then onto pursuing the things they are looking at. There is definitely a progression from soft porn to harder porn.
“While some believe soft porn has a disinhibiting effect and could be helpful in relationships, I have never seen a case where pornography has been helpful to a marriage,” he says. “It always winds up negatively. Porn is designed to make you dissatisfied. It is not designed to help you feel content with your marriage partner.”
Many have joined the fight against pornography, including a new organization called Fight the New Drug, whose mission is to raise awareness on the harmful effects of pornography through creative media. Its website (fightthenewdrug.org) gives helpful information about porn’s impact on the brain, the heart and the world.
Laaser says research shows that the endorphins released in the brain while looking at pornography are 200 times more potent than morphine and more addictive than cocaine. Because images are stored in the brain and can be recalled at any moment, researchers believe porn addiction may be harder to break than a heroin addiction.
According to Fight the New Drug, porn physically changes the brain over time. When one looks at porn, there is a surge of the chemical dopamine that feels really good. Dopamine helps create new brain pathways that essentially lead the user back to the behavior that triggered the chemical release. Porn users can quickly build up a tolerance as their brains adapt to the high levels of dopamine released by viewing porn. Even though porn is still releasing dopamine into the brain, the user can’t feel its effects as much.
“It is as though we have devised a form of heroin…usable in the privacy of one’s own home and injected directly to the brain through the eyes,” says Dr. Jeffrey Satinover of Princeton University, describing porn’s effect to a U.S. Senate committee.
In porn, everything from the way people look to how and why they have sex is not real. Unfortunately, porn addicts often get so obsessed with chasing some fantasy that they miss out on actual relationships. Porn kills love.
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