Parenting

3 Things Each Person in Your Family Needs to Know

Parents of young children often discuss among themselves whether they are doing all the right things to help their kids become healthy, happy adults.

How many activities should they be involved in? How much sleep do they really need? Is it bad to fix something different for each child for dinner? Am I a bad parent if I don’t (you fill in the blank)?

While these are all questions worth considering, every person has two basic needs – the need to know who you are and where you belong in the family.

The parent should help each member of the family be who they are as an individual and to understand how to connect and fit in with the rest of the family. This is a great case for not treating every child exactly the same. Personalities, temperaments and needs are different for each family member.

The parent’s role is to lead and the child’s role is to follow. So, how do you know if you are in charge or if your child is running the show?

You may need to reevaluate what is taking place if any of the following scenarios apply in your home:  

It’s not healthy for kids to rule the roost if you want to help them grow up and become independent. Even when they push the edge of the envelope, they are still counting on you to lead.

Research consistently shows that healthy families have similar patterns – adults are in charge of the family, each person is able to be close and separated from other family members, and the family expects and adapts to change as needed.

According to the authors of  Survival Skills for Healthy Families, each person in the family needs to know three things:

While children are under your roof, they need to know they can count on parents to be in charge. But, they also need to know they belong and how to use their voice. Mastering these skills earlier in life can be a real gift to your entire family – and for future generations.

 

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