When was the last time you and your mate played together? Seriously…can you remember the last time you did something crazy fun together?
In far too many marriages, play has been thrown out the window and replaced with serious adult responsibilities like careers, raising children, taking care of elderly parents, household chores and community commitments.
Research conducted at the University of Denver’s Center for Marital and Family Studies found that the amount of fun couples have together was the strongest factor in understanding overall marital happiness.
The more you invest in fun and friendship and being there for your partner, the happier the relationship will get over time. The correlation between fun and marital happiness is high, and significant.
TAKE THE CHALLENGE!
For the next four weeks, intentionally set aside time every other day to do something fun together. It doesn’t have to be something that will take hours. It could be a 30-minute activity. Watching television together or sitting next to each other while surfing the net does not count as play.
In an informal survey of couples, here are some of the things they said they do:
Play isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity. Don’t just sit around reminiscing about how playful and adventurous you used to be or lamenting the fact that you never do anything fun anymore. Take the challenge. Playful people are a lot of fun to be around.